Is there anyone out there that has met someone that "claims" to have never loved another? Is this supposed to be a "cool" thing or are they just hurt or afraid?
2006-08-22 16:49:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If these people are afraid, do they think that just because they don't say it, they aren't feeling it and won't get hurt when the relationship is over?
2006-08-22 16:56:05 · update #1
Some guys put obstacles in their own path. Not just guys, we all do. Being truly intimate with someone mean trusting themm enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable to them....to show them your secret doubts, fears, insecurities, and fears, as well as you hopes, dreams, wishes, and longings. The feeling is really naked, and too scary for a lot of people. So what do they do? They never let anyone get TOO close. They become overly critical, they have only one-night-satnds, they pretend to not care or feel. they do not gove too muck time to anyone or allow themselves to become emotionaly invested in anyone enough to care what they think. So yes, they are afraid to face hurt.
2006-08-22 16:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Males use the logic side of their brains for all tasks. Emotion is always secondary, which is why women mature faster. Emotional health is much more complicated, and since women use this side of their brains first, with logic second, they reach full maturity six years faster than men. Even when men full maturity, at age 30, half of their emotional makeup comes from a woman, which is why married men live up to 20 years longer than single men. But, for the man to be emotionally complete, he has the meet and bond with the right woman, who truly fills the gap, and that is where the problem lies. Finding the right woman to bond with, and not simply sleeping with any woman they come across, is important. Having sex with a woman, before bonding with her, presents a false image to the emotions of the man. For this reason, he can feel that he has never loved, because in reality, he has not. He's lusted, desired, wanted, a woman, but he has not loved her
2006-08-22 17:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and have never been in love. It has nothing to do with being hurt, afraid, cold, or trying to be cool. You just need to wait for the right person. Granted, I am sure there are plenty of people who are afraid to let themselves go, but they will with the right person. Trust me, no one ever not wants to be in love.
2006-08-22 16:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Satisfied Mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've defined my own project. i'm 21 and had by no skill had a boyfriend both. I easily have lengthy gone on relationship some adult adult males so i'm no stranger there. besides, my factor is, imagine about what contact you've had with adult adult males, be it non romantic or romantic. I beleive a relationship continuously might want to commence off as being a friendship. also you would possibly want to need to socialize slightly more desirable (i need to besides) and get targeted on something outdoors of school, that way you'd be blending with human beings.
2016-11-27 00:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by heckart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it has to do with ones principles as well as ones self esteem and confidence. No, it is not the cool thing to do. They are just scared to reveal who they truly are so as not to face ridicule and/or rejection or have already experienced it and don't want to go through it again. Others just see no use for it in their lives.
2006-08-22 17:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by The Good Humor Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably possible; but most probably impossible.
Guys are good at concealing their true feelings, especially if a guy is a chicken to court a chick. You know, like a guy suffering from fema-phobia or fear of females? lol. But it's most likely due to lack of confidence and too much negative thoughts, although that same guy could be very good at maintaining his position to demonstrate his firmness even if it's a lie to himself -- example, "I'm not in love!" *...and I stand by my words and act confidently... but hell I know I can't stand her rejection... and I don't even wanna ask her name coz I know I'd be shaking and I'll look ridiculous*.
2006-08-22 20:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are antisocial. It is in their brain, not a problem but a mental set that gets them through life. Some people just need themselves to be whole. Why others need that special half, do you see yourself as a better person to those others.
2006-08-22 16:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Icarus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cold people women to, I feel sorry for them it is not cool to be alone for the rest of youre life, and not knowing how to share it with somebody
2006-08-22 16:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell ppl i nvr fell in love and am afraid
2006-08-22 16:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From me to you. No, bullshit they would love to believe it because they saw it on TV.
2006-08-22 16:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋