Can I trust again? My husband cheated on me 2 years ago with 4 different women and now still makes late calls.

Question

I see the cell phone bills with repeated numbers called each day some at 2 or 3 in the morning. He is the sole provider of our family and works all the time. I explain to him how it is disrespectful for him to continue to talk with other women on a daily basis if he is married. He is the one calling them repeatly. He is not one to communicate where he is going and works late shift hours. We are home with 2 kids and one on the way.. I just do not feel like I can trust him. I feel so helpless because I have nowhere else to go.

Answer 1

I am a stay at home mom of two kids and I know what you mean it is hard to think of what you will do if you leave him you deppend on him but I can tell you this you can't trust him it was not like he cheated one time with one woman and begged your forgiveness for makeing a hudge mistake it seems like he knows you will stay no matter what so there for he thinks he can do what he want's and tell you sorry,and when people are always saying they are sorry because when you want someone to trully forgive you you try real hard not to do the same thing over and over again.He is so messed up I wish you wern't goin through this but since this is the hand you have dealt you must be strong for you and your kids and leave him you can do it it will be hard but we all deserve better than a man or woman cheating exspesially while you are pregnant.Good luck to you and I am sorry you are going through this at such a fragile time in your life.Also get him for alimony I am positive you will get it because he broke his vows to be faithfull to you therefor he ruined the marriage plus you aggred he would make the money and you would care for the children.

Answer 2

From a person's viewpoint that is really irritating to me..I'm uncertain in which you met your guy. But it screams night time membership..and the relaxation of the tale says that he simply lives his lifestyles too carelessly, and within the function of the conqueror of females..he seeing a sizzling lady, and is clear of you, and simply does not care he'll comply with the urge he has. This leads me to consider that he was once a "Bad Boy" form, and that trust aka swagger that he carried himself with whilst you 1st noticed him drew you to him. Another factor that might be running that is that A) There could be very little conversation among you each B) You have regrettably been performed or he thinks you can continually be round whilst he needs you. or C) It's a pressure copping procedure (I.E. He will get harassed out..he is going out alternatives up a sizzling chick, and has intercourse to blow off steam.) I've met humans like this..it is not beautiful to the connection of the intense member, until they're the identical means and Ground regulations are set in position on the opening of the whole lot. If in the following few weeks, you'll be able to speak to him and paintings matters out that might be well, nevertheless it sounds such as you married a person that has no goal of being critical for years yet to come...If it comes all the way down to it residing in unique locations for a even as might support, and probably the whole out Divorce. This is due to the fact that Hearts are fragile, and they may be able to best take such a lot..if anything does not difference quickly and also you do come to be divorcing later..you are going to be Jaded and it might be that so much tougher at the subsequent guy that trys to contact your center. I want you success

Answer 3

I'm sorry but I have to say this one is no good. Unless he's willing to give some acceptable reason he has to call other women in the middle of the night, and I can't imagine a single reason that would be acceptable, he's cheating. If not physically, at least emotionally, which is just as bad. You and your children do not need a person who cannot commit to you around. A completely unreliable and disrespectful parent is not always better than not having that parent around. Surely you have friends or family around that can help you? It may be hard for awhile, starting over usually is, but will be worth it.

If he really wants your trust again, he will be willing to stop the calls and go to therapy.

Answer 4

From a man's standpoint that is relatively irritating to me..I'm unsure the place you met your man. But it screams night membership..And the rest of the story says that he just lives his existence too carelessly, and in the position of the conqueror of females..He seeing a sizzling girl, and is faraway from you, and simply does not care he's going to follow the urge he has. This leads me to feel that he was a "dangerous Boy" sort, and that self belief aka swagger that he carried himself with when you 1st spotted him drew you to him. An extra thing that would be working that is that A) there may be very little conversation between you both B) you've got regrettably been played or he thinks you can normally be round when he wishes you. Or C) it can be a stress copping approach (I.E. He gets stressed out..He goes out picks up a sizzling chick, and has intercourse to blow off steam.) I've met persons like this..It can be no longer lovely to the connection of the serious member, until they are the equal approach and ground rules are set in place on the beginning of the whole lot. If in the following couple of weeks, which you could talk to him and work matters out that will be just right, however it sounds such as you married a man that has no intention of being serious for years to come...If it comes right down to it residing in exceptional locations for a while could support, and most likely the whole out Divorce. That is given that Hearts are fragile, and they can only take so much..If whatever doesn't alternate quickly and you do end up divorcing later..You are going to be Jaded and it would be that a lot more difficult on the following man that trys to contact your heart. I want you good fortune

Answer 5

No of course you can't trust him. This is a lousy situation your in. You have 2 children and a baby on the way. Your number 1 priority should be your children and yourself. There are women's shelters that may be able to help you. This man is a louse and I advise you to leave him. I realize that with a baby on the way that you are in a very bad place, but staying with him isn't doing you any good. Do you have any relatives or friends who might be able to lend you some money so that you can move out?

Answer 6

I think that you need to start being independant rather than depending on someone who is messing around. He isn't committed to you nor cares enough about his family to provide. He is providing to others, especialy if one of those female's becomes pregnant, if not already.

You can kick him out. He is the adultress. You are the mother with the children. He can move out and seperate. Pays child support. You get a part time job, get on WIC and go down to welfare or a place called "community connections" which is what it is called in Bakersfield, California (not sure if called that where you are at) for child care discount or free child care while getting on your feet so you can work while the children being cared for.

If he is serious, he seek counseling with you. However, you need to start gaining some self independance.

Need to think of yourself and think of your children. Is this an example you want your children to see that it is ok for a father/husband to cheat and be disrespectful? Is this what you want for the rest of your life?

Answer 7

First off he's cheating on you. There's really no way around it, he's done it 4 times before and now your finding cell phone calls at 2 and 3 in the morning to other women. Unless those phone calls are to his mother or sister they are not anyone he needs to be talking to at that time. You need to find a way to get out before its really to late. Find a family member, friend whatever that you can stay with (if worse comes to worse there are woman's shelters out there you can go to). This guy obviously doesn't care about you or your children and its time to leave.

Answer 8

The problem I see is that no one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment. Marriage is a commitment - bottom line; for better or worse .When we marry , we make a commitment to stick by OUR ORDAINDED SOUL MATE through thick & thin. If our lifetime soulmate screws up and makes mistakes , forgive them, work it out and maintain your commitment. MARRIAGE IS UNTIL DEATH !! When you speak those words " Till death do us part " that is exactly what it means. I was brought up to honor the sanctity of marriage so for 5 years now my husband { Paul Heinz } is with his girlfriend and I won't ever have any man in my life until my husband dies because second , third , fourth marriage are adultery. I do NOT want to go to hell because I got remarried to some guy before my true one & only husband dies.Hey it's your life not my .I DO NOT believe in divorce because divorce should NEVER be an option no matter what. 4 years ago my husband filed for divorce which is so wrong & it is going against what God joined together forever in the first place. Divorce means quit , and it's the coward's way out like is killing oneself is. Someone who kills oneself is a coward so I'm not. Divorce is ONLY for people who could care less for their lifetime commitment to their ordained spouse & their ordained family. Don't ever get a divorce so hang in there ............... forgive him. If you feel that you don't love your ordained soulmate anymore, then you have to work that much harder to refresh the marriage and develop new ways of sharing each other. The problem is we live in what I call a " Fast Food Could Care Less Society " ................... it's me , myself & I { I want what I want and I want it now } the problem is marriage is not fast food . It takes years of cultivation , nurturing and God centered. Everyone of us has a right has a responsibility to live right. COMMITMENT HAS A COST !!! Life is NOT consequences. LIFE IS DECISIONS !!! A Happy marriage is not a destination - it is a journey.

Answer 9

Its a tough decision to make and regardless of what others say....you have to be comfortable with it. Cause it is your life.

If you do decide to leave him now or sometime in the future, know that he will have to pay you child support for 3 children and alimony. If you are the custodial parent, he'll have to move out and you could probably keep everything because you need it for the kids.

And he'll be too broke to chase women. Maybe you need to tell him this....bet he poops his pants!

Answer 10

You are not stupid. You know what's going on. He has you right where he wants you. Once a dog always a dog. Dump the bum. As long as you display the fear to go out on your own he will continue to abuse your relationship. So you have two choices. Live the rest of your life in misery or start taking measures now to become independent. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.