they don't seem to want to see both sides of the story and accuses my kid no matter what or who's at fault. What can I do to make them understand, they need to listen to both sides before they automatically accuses my kid?
2006-08-22 16:32:25 · 8 answers · asked by ~Shy~Girl~ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Alas, my Dear One, they've already shown you how they handle situations. Their child is obviously (ahem, cough) an angel and yours is at fault. I suggest that you dissociate yourself and your child from them, especially if things have become more hostile than you might be saying. It's an unfortunate fault that some parents have of not seeing the little bugger in their own yard. it's easier to blame the neighbor's child. Be polite but distant. I wish you both well.
2006-08-22 16:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are the way they are, and if they are anything like the neighbors I use to have, their kid was a saint. The same saint who broke out two of my windows with a rock, the same kid who poured paint over our new mailbox, and the same kid who was so kind as to fill my gas tank....with sugar! And other neighbors witnessed this and went so far as to tell his parents, but they refused to believe it. In the end, their innocent little kid had made them so many enemies in the neighborhood, they moved out. Not sure if you'll be so lucky, so in the meantime, get a good fence and tell your kid, their kid is off limits because he's trouble. Then, if they come asking why the children can't play together, simply tell them, you were tired of them blaming your child for the things their child took part in. Either they'll get the hint, or they will keep living in denial until there kid starts getting into trouble without your child around to blame it on.
2006-08-22 23:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are not here to referee between their kids and yours. That when and if you see your kid do something wrong you and you alone will act on it, but that they must do the same to their kids.
Have the same discussion with your kid so he or she is secure in the knowledge that you are there for them, but make it clear to your neighbors that you will not punish your child on hear say and nor would you expect them to do that to their child.
Before you talk to your neighbors it wouldn't hurt to pray for God to give you the right words . And for Him to bless you and your neighbors.
2006-08-22 23:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can make anyone do anything unless they want to. It may be hard, but for the time being you have to restrict your son's interaction with the neighbors. You don't say how old your son is, but if he is young, you may have to personally supervise his every move while he's outside. Good luck. I know this is a dilemma for you and your family.
2006-08-22 23:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your kid associate with them...they are after all just neighbors, what is there to lose? A bad relationship and possible trauma to your child? All the better.
2006-08-22 23:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your kids try and make new friends some were else.
2006-08-22 23:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They sound mean. Its possible that if you told them the sky was blue, they'd refute it.
Try to befriend them so they will not be to hostile to you in the future.
2006-08-22 23:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tish-a-licious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its normal to take your child's side....dont let you child around those people, simple as that
2006-08-22 23:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋