I am in love with a very controlling man and I cant live with him also he is very hurtful. I have 2 children with him, we are divoriced and still have a relationship I want to make things work with him but feel it is a lost cause. I sometimes feel he doesnt even love me and sometimes I think he does but doesnt know how to express it or is afraid of expressing it. what to do? I dont want to spend my whole life trying to make him love me and not control me. and the kids. we live apart and probably that is best at least for now.
2006-08-22 16:23:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of men have no idea that they are the way that they are. The most dangerous ones know exactly what they are doing.
There are 100s of sites on Domestic Violence you can "google up." I left you a few at the bottom.
Domestic Violence does not have to be physical harm. It can be so subtle you can't even see it. The "red flag" method is the best way a woman can make judgements for herself and her children. A red flag is something that just doesn't seem right. Another method is to pay attention to how often he uses the word, "You." It signifies judgement.
The best advice I can give you is to take an overdue vacation with just your children and see for yourself that life is better than he wants you to know.
2006-08-22 16:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds very complicated ,to many factors to considder for a layman to give a valuable assesment and solution .
you have to come to terms with what is important to you
just keep saying that you only got one life and you must live it in the way that is best for you .
dont waste your time with lost causes .be strong and take control of your life ,that is far more important than wanting to control somebody else
than you would turn out to be the same as he is .and that is what is wrong right now .
two wrongs dont make a right
2006-08-22 23:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shortie WAKE UP!! you got divorced for a reason, instead of trying to control him ,how about learning to just be agreeable for the childrens sake,cause he won't change and you're still emotionally attached, which is clouding your judgement, no other man is going to want you(other than sex) until you get your mind off of mr.a**hole who messed up your mind!
2006-08-23 05:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor. Your situation is way too complicated for this site.
2006-08-22 23:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im in same situation with my wife i dont know what to do sorry
2006-08-22 23:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by mgiff6872 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep that distance
2006-08-22 23:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by AtreyuExs&Ohs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go here
http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice.asp
http://www.cyberparent.com/relate.htm
2006-08-23 00:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋