I want to go Biking on the bike route with a fellow coworker. I am new to the company. Private life should stay private , my husband says. And he says it is not safe. The bike route is woodsy and secluded probably. I really want to go. What do you guys think?
2006-08-22 16:21:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is male, My huband knows I will go if I want. I just want to act like a human for once, maybe and not just do anything I want. I dont know, thanks everyone
2006-08-22 16:31:36 · update #1
I think you should consider your marriage before takeing any drastic measures. You wouldn't want to hurt it over some guy that may be trying to get in your pants. Just think about it before you act on it.
2006-08-22 16:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by littlecloieinttown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's so funny to see the difference between the male and female perspective in the answers here. What this seems to say to me is, your husband doesn't feel comfortable with you riding a bike with a guy, especially someone you don't know, through a secluded area. Why is it so important to test your autonomy and independence in this situation? What if the shoe was on the other foot? How comfortable would you be if the husband was riding to work with a new girl?
2006-08-22 16:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a extra constructive be conscious to apply is controlling. we can not use overprotective because he's not a figure and also you at the on the spot are not a baby. From this second on, attempt to figure him out to ensure if he's replacing right into a diverse individual. some men, in the journey that they have got a controlling personality, develop into verbally or bodily abusive even as pregnant, or after a touch one is born for one reason -- they imagine, "i have were given HER! she will't leave me now, because she has a touch one with me!" -- What you wrote tells a narrative, you imagine this is purely type of scary now. Over the subsequent few months arise with a plan about no matter if you need to stay with him or leave. also, continuously be one step purely before him. do not enable him administration you.
2016-12-01 01:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by goldie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned if this coworker is a male or female. How well do you know this coworker if you just started at this company. If this coworker is a male....maybe he has a reputation at the company as being a player and always going for the "fresh meat". Do you want all the other coworkers to see you as another bimbo. How much respect will you get at work and how long will you last there?
2006-08-22 16:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this,...do a 'recon' first, look the trail over. If it's semi-public or better, tell your hubby that you'll be going. If, however, the trail is indeed secluded, you may want to check into the rep of the co-worker. If you are attractive, ther may be some substantiation to your hubby's concern. Tread lightly, but don't let your spouse usurp your life.
2006-08-22 16:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by longhair140 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that he is being overprotective. I think that he cares about you, and just wants to make sure that you do not get hurt. You also said that you are new to the company. Is this co-worker a male??? I am asking because I have a guy at my work that is hitting on me.... Your husband is just looking out for you.
2006-08-22 16:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by SOMEONE OUT THERE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to think about your safety. Why don't you find a better route to take, then your husband can't say it's not safe. Also remember that you don't need anyones permission to do something.
2006-08-22 16:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband just genuinely cares. why don't you try an alterate route? one that is more public? or why not try to get more co-workers involved? if you are new to the company than you need to get to know more than one guy right? if your new "friend" is not open to that, then his intentions were not good and you shouldn't go anyway.
2006-08-22 16:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is concerned. Why don't you invite him along if you just want to go biking. Whats the harm right.?That way you are safe and you get what you want.
2006-08-22 16:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really being over protective or is he controlling???? If you are going with someone I dont see anything at all wrong with it. Private life should stay private???? You dont have to talk about your private life at all.
2006-08-22 16:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋