ok heres the problem...?

Question

i dont know how to phrase this but basically my question is my mind jumps around too much, meaning i''ll get deppressed and stressed out bec on my 1st day of college i didnt understand my chemistry class but now i read one thing i understand so now i feel good, but then i messed up in my biology lab so im stressed out that i dont know whats going on... help me! how do i relax and not jump either way? or is this not a bad thing?

Answer 1

don't worry too much. the same thing was happening with me,too. but then i thought , what's the use of worrying . it will only kill me. now, for u , things r happening for your own good. don't worry.

Answer 2

Stress doesn't always have to be negative. Stress pressures us to work hard and it will pay off in the end. Write down your goals that you want to accomplish each day, like reading certain chapters, cleaning your room, or calling back a friend. By checking off those goals every day, you will feel better and more confident, guaranteed. It will give you a sense of control over your life and what you want to do. Then apply this idea to studying and getting your work done. Focus your attention to whatever you have to be doing at the time. School isn't the only thing either, so you can focus your mind on having fun or doing other things when the time comes up! You can't relive the past, and the future is not yet here. You can only live in the moment, and focus on what is set before you. Good luck

Answer 3

Might this be an ADD thing? You should try relaxation techniques, like deep breathing, even meditation. If you feel like this is really affecting your quality of life, you should see a doctor. Having manic-type thoughts might be a chemical thing, which is nothing to be ashamed of, but it is something that should be paid attention to by a doctor.

The first year of college can be very stressful - it makes you realize how easy high school was! But you should try your best to concentrate and leave the stress out of it. Make a choice in your mind that stress will get you nowhere. And if it's a matter of needing extra help/tutoring, then those resources exist on any college campus - just see an advisor. Keep in mind that to 'get the hang of it' and not panic, you may just need to cut out any partying and spend extra time hitting the books. But again, if you feel like you might be having emotional issues, see a doctor - those resources exist on college campuses as well. Good luck!!

Answer 4

You are just experiencing needless anxiety. Relax or you will miss out on the good stuff......wisdom and understanding.
Try to look at "mistakes" as merely lessons that show you what doesn't work.
Try to see the opportunity in all "problems" and "obstacles". Each is a challenge. They are a challenge to 1-improve something, 2-overcome something, and 3-learn something.
So what if you mess up? Everyone does. At least you had the ***** to try and fail, rather than to not try at all. And, you can walk away with they newfound wisdom having learned what does not work.
It also helps to try to replace every "I can't" with "I am not willing to" and see how that changes your perspective.
Trying to do something, "failing," and learning what NOT to do the next time you try shows integrity and conviction. Who could fault you for that? NO ONE. Chalk it up to a lesson learned, wisdom gained.
Feeling overwhelmed is natural, but take a deep breath and realize that YOU are in the driver's seat. you will decide where you will go. You might take a few wrong turns, but ultimately You will be in control. How cool is that?
It is not such a bad thing. It shows you care and want to do well. You don't have to do well at first at everything. Otherwise your classes would be three days long. You have time to absorb, understand, and apply what you need to succeed.
Remember, whether you think you will be successful or not, you will be right.

Answer 5

I think your last comment is more real.

It really isn't a bad thing. You're ADJUSTING to a new situation with radically different requirements than anything you've ever experienced, so you're hyper sensitive.

Funny as this sounds, you can actually decide to enjoy the roller coaster of feelings you experience in these type of situations. It's some of the most fun in life you'll ever get, if you know how to approach it.

Think of Lewis and Clark, Stanley and Livingstone, or fictional characters like the ones in Star Trek. The protagonist always has obstacles, challenges, issues, problems, tasks, scheduling difficulties, difficult people to figure out, places to find, and other fun stuff.

Once everything settles down into a predictable schedule, all the fun of discovery and challenge is gone, and you have to settle for backbreaking, bone crunching hard WORK to achieve your goals and make progress.

Right now, you can feel adventurous and successful just for finding the lab building.

Enjoy it while it lasts!!!

Answer 6

I basically do the same thing, so I know how you feel, and I think it's pretty normal. It's good that you care how you do in school, but try to remember that college is not everything in your life, and there are other things that should be just as if not more important in your life. Family, friends, etc. Relax by talking to someone close to you. Or just think "it's okay, I can do this, I can figure this out."

Answer 7

typical freshman, yeah you're getting too stressed out and it kinda' is a bad thing, you just need to stop pressuring yourself so much, college is not as hard and intimidating as high school teachers liked to make it seem

Answer 8

relax calm down stop worrying so much go with the flow. worrying won't change the outcome.

Answer 9

Learn how to meditate.