I'm 25, virgin, getting married on 25 september. I've heard all the scary stories about pain, soreness and BLEEDING. I'm confused, depressed and scared. Need real medical answers. Please help!!!
2006-08-22 16:15:43 · 13 answers · asked by blublurain 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I bow down to you. A 25 yr old virgin saving herself for her hubby.
I bled just a little for 5 minutes. I've never heard of someone bleeding very much. That's because a membrane is being broken (forgot what's its called) when he goes inside the vagina. That's normal. Talk beforehand, during foreplay and tell him to take it slow the first time. Sometimes when the man is fast it hurts us women. And you might want to have him inside for a few minutes, pull out and do more foreplay and do it again so your body gets use to it. If his penis is big, definitely have him take it slow. After a few times of intercourse your vagina will get use to his size.
Congrats and have fun! Best wishes on your special day!
2006-08-22 16:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to talk to a friend. Everyone is different. There is a physical aspect to having sex for the first time as well as an emotional one. Let your husband know how you feel and ask him to be very gentle and don't worry if it doesn't feel good the first time or even for several times after. It isn't that bad and you may bleed but it's not a lot. Just be patient with yourself and I hope your man is sweet and appreciative of what he is being given. Please read. Go to the library and check out some books. You need to relax and make sure he doesn't rush you. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 16:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have heard just the wrong things about losing your virginity. Yes you do bleed as the hymen is broken and it will hurt. It will bleed a little but the act of the loving interlude for your wedding night, need not be interrupted but this scary tactic that you hear about. All girls are virgins once. They all survive the breaking of their hymen and I don't recall any of them being rushed to the hospital due to a broken cherry.
I know your are concerned but please don't be. Once the hymen is broken you will or may feel pain but the continuation of this loving event will over shadow your apprehension.
Please concentrate on your wedding and your husband. You will get passed this loving ordeal and we all are hoping for you happiness. Good Luck
2006-08-22 16:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women do bleed, but if you have ever used a tampon you may have broken the hymen before this anyway. I never bled at all, and I don't recall it even hurting, the first time. All women are different. Don't let the stories of others scare you. Talk to your husband before hand let him know how you feel. He will understand.
2006-08-22 19:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by mrsjav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt the first time. Some bleed more than others just depending on how thick the skin is. You shouldnt bleen for more than a few hours. KUDOS to you for being a virgin and giving it to your future husband. Not to many women can say that anymore.
2006-08-22 16:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jaitothakah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt a little bit just varys to what position you do it and just make sure he goes easy and you should be fine. It wont hurt for long. I didnt bleed alot of blood just a little bit off and on for a couple of days and if you have sex a day or to after you might still bleed. But good luck and congrats! =)
2006-08-22 16:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by STEPHANIE A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, cuz you might not even bleed, it will be uncomfortable at first but as time passes you will enjoy it more and more! When you get ready to do it, you have to relax and enjoy.......its a natural thing, its not a job. When you are enjoying the foreplay, your gonna get really wet and horny, thats when you have to tell your Husband to be to enter you very gently till tou get used to having that object in you, then to pump it slowly..........That will ease you into enjoying it a bit more!
2006-08-22 16:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to relax. It will be great. You may bleed a little (use a pad cuz a tampon didnt do it). But you will do it with someone you love without doubt. You rock!!!
2006-08-22 16:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Melanie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!! I don't have an answer for you, cuz I'm only 17, (and a virgin, and i'm going 2 be one until the day i get married!!) so hi five 2 you, cause it makes me feel good knowing that there's girls like me out there who choose to be virgins when they marry!! thanks! good luck 2 U!
2006-08-26 12:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by I♥Brennan&Booth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have always wondered how much ppl bleed ull get lots of answers theres not a lot of virgins out there
scary
its cool u waiting tilu were married
congrats!
2006-08-22 16:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Curious Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋