My married muse from work- hes been watching me for a year- yes I really want him, but he is married-!!!!!-someone at work asked him If he was single and said I was the one who wanted to know--I wondered what would happen-- everyone online said "he is out for sex.., needs an ego boost, etc" and as a married man he won't approach me-- so I stayed cool and have been ignoring him at work-even though my hands shake when he comes anywhere near me-- he hung out on my floor again today watching me-I pretended he wasn't even there---believe me-- If I was reading this I would be wondering what kind of idiot woman is this- but every time I see him- my heart hits the floor--can't explain it ---ughh-- I have stayed away and he is coming around-- Help-I haven't wanted someone like this in years.........
2006-08-22 15:39:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks Annie- believe me- his wife and kids are on my mind all the time--thats why I have never said a word to him--Its a terrible thing- when I was 16 and with my 1st love- I thought- there is only one man for you in life- and then we grew up-- now I think nature puts people in front of you that match you- so maybe you can pass on genes- the problem is - what wife or GF wants to know there is more than one woman out there for her man? I certainly wouldn't. But I suspect its true- esp since I, of the one only club, got to sere the 2nd time around---that I can't have because he is married---so you grumpy wives--keep it to your selves-- we have never even spoken--but it is still something you can't have----
2006-08-22 15:59:18 · update #1
you want help go tell his wife how you feel im sure she will be glad to help you to the ground. Would you want someone to think of your husband in this way or wait your not married most home wrecking whores never find anyone to marry them
2006-08-22 15:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, and it is just because you are attracted to him. His being married has kept you back, and it should be that way. Just wait and let these feelings pass and do not be tempted to give in to them (very hard, but remember that you can't be the one to help an idiot destroy another womans life!)
Remember and respect his wife. And if he does ever leave her, remember what he is capable of and don't trust him in your life. He can't be trusted and is not a respectable person. In fact, if you give in, no one at work will ever look at you the same again. It will hurt you more than it will hurt him because it sounds as if he is known as a cheater. You still have dignity. Hold on to it because like virginity, you can never get it back when it is gone!
Oh.. and pay a lot of attention to his FLAWS (and he does have them).. it will help you "turn off". He will snort milk from his nose or say something really stupid and the spell will be broken.. (and it is a spell).. so just watch for your release and hold on until it gets there. A good vibrator will help, too. No lie and please don't be offended.. and do NOT think of him while using it!
2006-08-22 22:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by starshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all remember he is a married man you will be jepordizing a family do you know if he has any kids you could be hurting by doing anything with him so not only would you be the other woman but you would also destroy a family and some other woman's life think about how you would feel if you where her also just remember once a cheeter always a cheeter so my advice is just be friends their are other fish in the sea good luck
2006-08-22 22:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understaind that you are in fact attracted to this man. Put yourself in his wifes shoes and think about how you would feel. On top of that some people are crazy she might find out and hurt you in some way. Stay away from him if he keeps watching you tell him to stop be nice.
2006-08-23 03:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by jenn_burks311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you admitted it yourself that you wanted him. If you don't want to wreck his marriage, knowing he's a married man just out for sex,
why don't you just confront him and tell him you're not interested in hooking up with a married man and to leave you alone? Whether you know it or not, you're only encouraging him by doing nothing.
2006-08-22 22:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and he knows you are wanting him, so he is making the best of it..... I do not know this guy, but if he is married and is carrying on this way, do you think he is trust worthy ?? think about it... if he is thinking of or is cheating on his wife, what makes him worth anything as a partner ?? keep telling yourself, he is married, and that it is NOT fair to his wife... you know better than to cross that line or you would have done it before now.... so stay strong and keep your heart clean........ God bless
2006-08-22 22:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you trying to break another family. If he is married and yet behaving single, he is not doing the right thing. Do you want to lead him on?
Wake up. He is MARRIED. Stop daydreaming, go for ELIGIBLE MEN.
2006-08-22 22:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by j t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go find you a good single man and leave this poor family man alone. Shame on you.
2006-08-22 22:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you would feel if it was your husband(when you get one) and back off and leave it alone. Women have to have to strenght to leave it be, men just don't have any and most men will stray if they know that someone wants them.
2006-08-22 22:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married! Hands off! If someone was scoping my husband I would have her ***!!
2006-08-22 22:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋