I need your opinion because I dont think it is proper. Perhaps you can enlighten me so that I can develop a more informed and fair opinion.
Thank you
2006-08-22 15:36:58 · 59 answers · asked by Mr. love 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well then, I suppose you would think its more "PROPER" for children to remain in foster care for the rest of their childhood lives, being abused and molested by those who only want to abuse the system to get the money for taking them in to their homes rather than a family that prefers to raise a child from the heart and love them because they would like to raise a family, love and be loved. Stop judging.
2006-08-22 15:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Myzz Undastood 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Its sort of a matter of degrees. Of course you would want kids raised by thier own intelligent, loving, caring, parents. Thats the best thing for the parents and the best thing for the kids. But what about the kids that dont have those kinds of parents. There are not enough people to adopt all the unwanted, abandoned, damaged kids out there. So why not give two people that happen to be of the same sex, or even one person with out a co parent, the chance to do some thing they really want to do. I would rather have a caring, loving, intelligent parent of any gender caring for me than someone that doesnt. Is that a good reason??
When are we going to lose the gender and race issues and really start considering what really matters. Are you a whole human or are you a turd? Quit labeling and start loving.
2006-08-22 15:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any one who wants a child and who will love it and care for it should be allowed to adopt.
There are less instances of abuse with gay parents, they have been through the pain of being beaten and hated and don't want to inflect it on anyone. 90% of molestations are done by straights.
Being gays isn't a choice, its something you are born with, so children born to or adopted by gay parents wouldn't be "turned gay." They may be more open minded and accepting of themselves though.
The need for a mother and father is a myth. Many kids today grow up with out both and most are ok. I was adopted by a straight couple, both mother and father, I would have been better with out a father. He messed up my life that much. If a single parent can spend enough time with a child to insure they will be a quality person, they will be. Unfortunately most single parents can't. So if a couple who happens to be the same gender can spend a good amount of time with the child, they'll be fine.
Also having parents who are "different" will lessen the chance of the child being a bully, or pick on other kids. They will be more ok with who they are, because everyone is different but kids just want to fit in.
So, yes, it is ok, and it should be allowed, and it should be encouraged.
2006-08-22 18:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mithrandir_black 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do need some enlightenment. I know so many people/kids who grew up in broken "straight" homes. parents divorced when they were young. had straight parents who were verbally/physically/sexually abusive. had a parent who did drugs or was alcholic. do you think children are better off in "straight" homes under those conditions? why do you think it's more "proper" for straight people to raise children? you know, most, if not nearly all of US were raised in "straight" homes.
my parents didn't divorce, there was no abuse of any kind. I knew no one gay growing up that "influenced" my sexuality. I was born the way I am. and my family and friends are very accepting of me.
While I don't have kids, I have many gay/lesbian friends who do. and actually, not adopted but biological (either through artifical insemination or from a marriage before they "came out). Those children are happy, healthy and well-adjusted. and they have loving parents who provide for them. Isn't that what children truly need? does it really matter what the gender of the parents happen to be if they are loving and attentive parents? and having gay/lesbian parents won't "turn" a child gay. Like I said, straight parents have gay children....
so, one would naturally assume from your question, and your statement that you don't think it's "proper" that you are homophobic? enlighten us....
2006-08-23 06:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. In fact, its wonderful. You cannot teach someone to be gay. Didn't most gay people come from heterosexual parents? Did their parents teach them to be gay? No, absolutely not. A gay person is not a pedophile. Besides, pedophilia comes in both genders and with varied sexual orientations. Every child deserves to grow up in a home with loving parents, no matter what their gender may be. Granted, there are some idiots out there that teach their children hatred and bigotry. These children will most likely encounter some of them. I am sure that their parents will inform them in an open and honest way and prepare them for any idiot they may encounter. Twenty years ago, some other idiots were shocked by bi-racial unions and their children. Today, its no big deal. Thank God.
2006-08-23 08:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who doesnt think it is proper...is a person who still looks down upon gay and lesbian relationships as "dirty" or messed up or just not how it should be. A child living in a household with two parents who love them....doesnt happen often enough with the divorce rate how it is. So what does it matter if the parents who are loving and caring for the child are the same sex.
2006-08-22 16:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by got_manholes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gays and lesbians adopt because they want to raise and child and love him/her and perhaps give the childhood a much better one than they had. A large variety of straight people have babies for no apparent reason. Look at all the single moms and two-family households on welfare and all the abuse that goes on. I've seen it, it's horrible. It seems like a majority of people keep pushing out the babies just to get more money from the government to get by on.
2006-08-22 15:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is perfectly okay for Gays and Lesbians to adopt children, assuming they are capable of providing a nurturing and loving environment that fosters positive growth and development in the child...in other words, fulfilling identical criteria for validating heterosexual foster parenting.
No difference has been noted regarding negative affectations or development of the child when placed within either heterosexual or homosexual foster homes when specific socio-economic criteria has been compared.
Additional studies have concluded that homosexual parents are, and have been, capable of providing a thriving childhood experience.
Best Wishes!
2006-08-22 18:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. As long as it's two loving parents, why should it matter if they are gay? I have seen studies where children grow up just as balanced as a child who grew up in a straight home. Often, children of a gay household grow up more balanced, because they learn not to be so judgemental. And for all those people who say that it would be perverted, there's a lot of straight homes, too, where perversion goes on. Hopes this helps!!
2006-08-22 16:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by REDHED4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids in an abusive straight home or loving gay or lesbian home. I know which one I would choose. It's not about if it's a straight couple or not it's about how much love and affection and understanding they get.
You'll probably find that the gay and lesbian people are better at that because they have had the rough end of the stick. They also know how to love much more because of it.
2006-08-22 19:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋