is it possibe to be totally committed to someone (girl/boyfriend, wife, husband, mother, father, best/goodfriend, sister, brother, cousin.................) in thoughts, words and deeds despite this person's faults and the number of times they've wronged you? yes/no and why?
2006-08-22 15:34:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anna Banana 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes it is possible. Usually this is a good thing - otherwise all of us would be alone, since we all have our faults. Thank God there are people who put up with us!
Sometimes, though, you need to cut people out of your life. For example, you shouldn't be totally committed to a boy or girlfriend who cheats on you, demeans you, abuses you, etc.
2006-08-22 15:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sass B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I think this very issue is what creates the most common heartache in life. You can never depend on anyone. People are always going to let you down. But incidents and pain have no impact on the development of love, platonic or otherwise, and knowing you love someone that hurts you is one of those rare emotions that can completely split you inside. And sometimes it's not even what the person does to hurt you, it's just knowing you'd do anything to make THEM feel how YOU'D like to feel, knowing you're still in love with them, that hurts the most.
2006-08-22 23:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you can`t always act on feelings and if someone hasn`t changed by now, they`re probably not going to. You`ll end up being in more pain at the end. I just went through a something like that, and my only advice is to lead with your mind, not your heart.
2006-08-22 22:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will quote from Quran "Pious and good ladies for piou and good men (whereas) bad and ladies for bad men. The explanation and asnswer to quetion is very simple that if your thoughts etc are not commited to some one then he/she should expect same from his boy/girlfriend, wife etc.
As for other relations like father, mother, son or daughter yo should be good with them even for their wrongs, it will pay you in the long run.
2006-08-22 23:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by dpcard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tweedles,
I am totally committed to my fiancee' and there have been times in our 10 years together as a coople that his hurtful words have hurt me...When these times occur,I go and spend some time by myself,and think and write in my journal,afterwards when I feel that I am calmed down and ready to discuss thehurtful words that he said to me we sit down and talk.Also, I have been guilty of saying something that I have regretted too.Communication is sooooooooo important in "any" relationship,if you can not talk to the people that you love,it is frustrating...This goes with your parents, siblings, and all your friends.When you get angry or hurt,tell the person that you are goig to leave or go into another room to think before you say something that you will regret saying and inform this oerson that when you have had time to think and calm down ,you will sit down and talk to them.....Take it from me ,This
will help you. I know...because..I used to say anything and i have hurt alot of people because of my xtra large mouth......Know with years of experience ,I remove myself from any negative situation before i am ready to errupt..Everyone has faults,you do,I do, the person next to you....And people are gong to wrong you that is when you have to decide "if" they are worthy
of your friendship,especially if they cotinue to hurt you over and oaver again,,
My best friend (since we have been 6 years of age)has hurt me so bad over a 2 year time period that I decided to end our longtime relationship,it was hard
to do,but I do not have that negativity in my life anymore.Do i miss her? not anymore. I hope that i have helped you..i wish you the best.
2006-08-22 22:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by FELINELOVER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. What a person says can be totally different than what they do. But anybody can say stuff to make you be attached to them, so look at how they act before you decide how big this person should be in your life.
2006-08-22 23:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was like that wit my exboyfriend, like he would be rude 2 me most of the time but i jus didnt want 2 no be with him but we broke up from 6 months bout a month ago and we're really good friends....i think the reason why i really liked him even tho he was rude is bcuz the times that he was nice, he was really sweet so i jus waited a long time 2 see if he could jus be like that all the time
2006-08-22 22:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by yup... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. My fiance cheated on me (many times over a 5 year span). I forgave him and we went through counseling for "Sexaholics" and I stayed by his side. Even though his flaws are major and horrible, I see good in him.
2006-08-22 22:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, yes, but not the best course of action.
2006-08-22 22:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, You only need your will to do so
2006-08-22 23:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by spyblitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋