I was burnt pretty bad by a gay man. It has caused me to be a little.... put off by homosexuals. I know it's wrong to let one person ruin your sweet outlook on all people. I know all gay men aren't bad. Advice??
2006-08-22 15:05:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are the victim, you are not awful..you have the perspective to not blame all..you are ok..
2006-08-22 15:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by KT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that i am to judge you for your actions, that is not my job, it isn't anyone's job here on earth. I think that u should look at each and every person as a different being. Gay, straight, black or white. Just because one homosexual hurt you, it doesn't mean the next homosexual you meet will be and do the same things. That person will have his or her own ideas, perspectives and outlook on treating people whichever way they treat them.
Good luck, God bless, have a good day
2006-08-22 15:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you should take your own advice. You are already aware of the problems in your thinking and the reasons why you should change. When you start to feel "put off" or what have you, remind yourself of the reasons why you shouldn't. Also what are you? straight, white, black, whatever...I'm sure you fit into some sort of category regardless of who you are. How would you feel if someone was "put off" or was treating you different or less because you are straight, male, or female? Do you think you are like EVERY other straight person out there for someone to generalize you? Probably not.
2006-08-22 15:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay people are cool so long as they do not mess with the lives of straight people, and that is why I don't like gay dudes. I date all races of women but find black women the most appealing. Well as we all know the "down low brothers" also know as fags have been bringing very bad diseases to the black women so I as a straight man am very pissed with gays for messing up my btches.
2006-08-22 15:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Average 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to associate a group of people with one bad experience.
Maybe try to understand why he did what he did ... if you were in a relationship with him, maybe he was confused, or had been hurt and damaged himself in the past. (Understanding does not mean thinking that whatever he did was okay).
Then, get to know other gay men in a friendly way, so you can associate them with good things as well as bad.
2006-08-22 15:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there's a serious age hollow happening. I comprehend, because my mum and dad had me overdue in existence also. at the same time as i became in extreme college absolutely everyone theory my mum and dad were my GRANDPARENTS! i became embarrassed through them--no longer because there became something incorrect with them, yet because we were generations aside in our outlooks. In 3 or 4 years you'd be out on your own, and once you discover out what it really is like being an "grownup" you would possibly want to discover you omit the sturdy old days of being cared for through your mum and dad. also keep in mind that because they're a lot older than you, they could no longer be round as long as you imagine. detect strategies to delight in them now.
2016-11-26 23:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by kavanagh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kind of answered your own question, don't you think?
"it's wrong to let one person ruin your sweet outlook on all people"
2006-08-22 15:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
were you 'burnt' by a person or by a 'gay' person. your question is worded rather like as if you were referring to your persecutor as "black' or 'hispanic'. if you truly have a sweet outlook on life, you will get past this and focus on setting yourself right with the person who wronged you - not because he is gay, but because he is a person. forgive him and move on.
2006-08-22 15:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you need advice. I think the way your question is phrased indicates that you realize that just because one member of a group jurts you, it does not apply to all memebers. Instead, Iread your question as indicating a need for support. If that is the case, consider that you have mine (for whatever internet anonymous support is worth).
2006-08-22 15:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay look last year somthin happened to me like this i know excatly how you feel but it was a mentally chanelled person and he corned me into the corner and tryed to rape me but i've got over it a little bit. what you have to do is just put yourself in their place in think what their doing in then just do stuff that would make them not think about sex or pain or stuff like that.
i hope this helps!
2006-08-22 15:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by razer911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there r other fish in the sea.get a grip and go fishing.there is a hotline for that :4323850477 Joe is the guy that helps and talks to people when they feel down,
2006-08-22 15:15:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋