What would you do in this situation, girls?

Question

I have, or had, a crush on a guy who I found out is gay, but I decided to become friends with him anyway because i still think he is a great guy.. but I feel like I am flirting whenever I talk to him, and I don't mean to..I don't want him to think I still like him in that way even though I know I probably always will..is there a way I can make this less obvious? and If I invite him to go somewhere with me will he think i am still flirting,because I REALLY don't mean to.. I just want to be able to hang out with him like I do with my other friends, but I am scared that I already freaked him out because he found out I like, or liked him, and that there is no hope of a real friendship..

Answer 1

Well,i would tell him.Tell him you liked him at one point,but you also respect his wishes.Tell him this in a non-judgmental way.I understand that you arent judging him,but it may come across that way.Just explain to him that you liked him at one time.Reguardless of his sexual preferences that you would still like to have a friendship out of this.That you will support his decisions and that you think he is a great guy and that you would really like his friendship.If you dont tell him he may feel that you are "invading" this.Just tell him how you felt,and how you feel now.Explain you want nothing more than a friendship out of it.Good luck!

Answer 2

Bin there and I have some advice.

I found that it was actually easier to be myself with him after the pressure of seeking and maintaining a romantic relationship had been lifted (and I got over my disappointment). I also found that at first it was hard to get out of the habit of flirting with him. After a while, we struck a balance and were able to be really fun friends and I still flirt with him now and then. Just with the understanding that he is one of my very best friends and that it's just me flirting with a very attractive man.
He appreciates that I think he is good looking and that it's in good fun.

Tell him. Let him know that your actions are not to be taken in any way other than good friendship and have a good time.

Answer 3

It's hard to be friends with a guy you like... I know... But just keep being friends with him, if you are thinking you are flirting with him when you are talking to him then you will not be acting normally. Just take a deep breath, the worst thing that could happen is he thinks you like him, WHO CARES, if he is a great guy then he won't let that get in the way of your friendship. Plus as time goes on you will become more comfortable with him and act yourself. It will pass - the whole flirting thing and the fact that he thinks you like him. All it takes is time.

Answer 4

Don't sit down with him they make it sound like u r a couple lol. just be a little rude and he'll get the point but don't be to rude or he might think that u don't evern want to be friends. And don't call him as often. call him maybe 2 a week and if u go out go out wit other hot hot guys and talk to him about them since he's gay u could have like girls talk. It would be fun I wish I had a gay friend ur LUCKY!!

Answer 5

hum, well if he is really gay and not bi- you have a problem.
well honestly i wouldnt want to have sex with him after he had been with a man even if he turned straight.
i have nothing against any person. whatever floats their boat.
i was just speaking for myself.
i had a friend once that fell in love with a transsexual..a dancer??
anyway, it never turned out like she wanted.
best to have some space.
you may never get over your crush, unless u see him in the act with another guy.
anyway, move on to straight guys.
dont stop being his friend, but i feel like u need to back off for your own peace of mind.
dont expect him to change.
i think that people are born gay.
i dont think that it is a choice.
some men are as attracted to other men as iam to men(iam a girl).
i really feel they cant help it.
maybe too many female hormones??
i dont know. i wish all people happiness.
best of luck.

Answer 6

relax, chill out . maybe keep ur distance from him for a couple of weeks. Pretend ur buzy, then give him a bell see if he wants to catch up for coffee, just start of doing small things 1st then go and do what ever u want. if u think he think u still like him den talk to him about some other guy, make it up. And ask him for some advice so he knows u aint interested in him and u wont feel like an idot n maybe he wont feel uncomfortable :) or talk to him about what guys he finds cute. if ur out or something check out another guy and ask him for his oppinion :) good luck

Answer 7

attitude her outdoors of the employer. the employer doesnt prefer to have all that occurring at its assets. yet you're able to do what you like outdoors the partitions. in case you prefer to ask her out, do it by ability of calling her at residing house. Ask her for her selection as you're walking to the vehicle interior the motor vehicle parking zone. save artwork and delight separate. If she/you're direct comments than you're fairly pushing it with your jobs and you will would desire to reconsider if that's properly worth it or locate somebody else to get a weigh down on.

Answer 8

STAY FRIENDS WITH HIM. I HAD THE SAME KIND OF ATTRACTION. EVEN THOUGH HE DIDN'T FEEL THE SAME WAY TOWARDS ME, I HAD SO MUCH RESPECT FOR HIM FOR THE PERSON HE WAS. HE WAS TRAGICALLY MURDERED BUT I'LL NEVER FORGET ALL THAT I LEARNED FROM HIM. AND YES, I HAD THE DEEP FEELINGS FOR HIM FOR A LONG TIME. JUST REMEMBER AND RESPECT HIS FEELINGS.

Answer 9

girl this is a tough one!

well sit him down and ask him do you think i like you?

if he says yes tell him you dont

if he doesnt believe you tell him you just love to flirt cause its fun

Answer 10

Put a lid on it. He's gay, now, forever and always. Stop trying to provoke him.