How do I know if I'm being too clingy? And how can I stop?

Question

I love my girlfriend more than anybody, and though we've only been together for a month, we were best friends for three years before. I admit, the friendship has made us much, much closer.

Anyhow, I feel like I'm being too clingy and I hate it, and I think she does too (though she hasn't told me). I feel as though maybe I text her too much or apologise way too often - to a point that it could be annoying.

I want to, for example, text her less, but I don't want her to think I'm suddenly ignoring her or anything. I find it difficult to not find myself wanting to speak to her all the time, and come on, that's got to get on her nerves!

I'm pretty darn sure I'm being a bit too "full-on" and I don't want to drive her away, so how can I stop myself from acting so obsessed and clingy? I need some serious advice.

Answer 1

maybe before you text her take 10 seconds to really think about what you're doing. you could just be acting too impulsively, given your eagerness to make a long lasting relationship. just slow down and remember that you guys are together, the hard part's over.

Answer 2

Talk to her and ask her. Usually it's the girl who's got the clingy gene and not the guy!

But be sure that you still have friends of your own and activities you enjoy away from her. Just because you're one-half of a couple doesn't mean you have to rely on each other for all your emotional and social needs. By having things to do separate from her, you'll keep your own identity and still remain interesting to each other.

Tell her your worries/concerns and see what she says. If she cares about you as much as you do about her, then she should understand and want to help/be supportive.

Answer 3

OMG, you guys are soooooo getting married one day. God, you are really so cute - your gf is very lucky to have you. Here's what you do... TALK to her about it!!! Really simple... it's the best thing in the world. No secrets. Work this out together. You guys are gonna be together for a very long time... start this out right... communicate... tell her what you just told us and work on resolving the issue if there is indeed one at all. Clear the air. Problems come from secrets and trying to guess when all you needed to do was ask or tell. Good luck and much happiness.

Answer 4

Stop writing her sorry texts, you'll sound insecure. You will not be ingoring her if you send her less texts, just make sure when you two are together you make her feel like the most important person in the world. Besides if you text her and talk to her a little less the more she'll miss you. You sound like you have a good thing going do not screw it up.

Answer 5

First thing you have to do is STEP BACK!! remember, you were friends before, don't mess that up. Try just sending her one or two text instead of 20, and for crying out loud , Tell her about this!!! TALK to her, she will understand, she may have suggestions of her own.

Answer 6

you are worring too much..you can back off a little and still be comfy..hang out with the boys a little more or do something on your own..she'll still be there..it will be ok..just take time to breath every once in a while..it is not healthy to be joined at the hip..even married couples take alone time..

Answer 7

yea, way too clingy stop texting her so much and calling and apoligizing...instead of thinking you're ignoring she'll think you're being mysterious...girls like that

Answer 8

come rite out and ask her if u r bein clingy. if she says yes, ask her if she likes it. if yes then just go on w/ y'all lives. if no, then ask her how you kan stop and wurk sumthin up. if she says no dat she doesnt think so den stop worryin. and dunt b afraid 2 tell her y u think so if she asks y.

Answer 9

Here's my advice: Moderation in all things.

Answer 10

u should talk to a threapist about this.