Hi my name is Henry. I'm new here and have a touch situation and wondering if you can help me out?

Question

My name is Henry Johnson. Father of 3 beautiful kids, Michelle, Alexus, and Michael. Have a lovely wife named Linda. We've been married when we were both 23. About 22 years ago. My problem is that for the first time in 20 years I've felt as our passion in our love life has simply just went away. I don't know what to do. She said that she doesn't feel sexy anymore and I'm not helping her at all. But with all my valuable time wasted by working, paying bills, I just don't have the time! Well, my question is how can I help my wife feel sexy and put back the flame in our love life without much time wasted? Thank you.
God bless.

Sorry about my grammer. I mean I have a "tough" situation not touch. My bad.

Answer 1

well hello Henry.
I think you adn your wife need to go away for a little bit. Leave the kids at a grandparents house, a close friends or a babysitters for a night or two. you and your wife need to go out to a romantic dinner and spend quality time together. just like you use to before "the fire started dying" well ive never been married so idk if this will actually work but i hope i helped. and i hope EVERYTHING works out. =]

Answer 2

I'm disappointed that you said all of your valuable time was wasted working and paying bills. Why do you think that you would waste time romancing your wife? No wonder she doesn't feel sexy; you need to take time to romance her. You didn't just get her to fall in love with you one night 22 years ago, did you? That took time and patience to cultivate, and now you have to do it again.

Whatever you did 22 years ago, do it again. You should have been doing it all along, and I understand that jobs, the mortgage payment, other bills and children, (basically life in general) gets in the way, but that's no excuse to neglect your marriage. I'm married too, 13 years, and we have two children, and life intrudes on us too. It's not easy, but you make the time.

You asked what you can do to make her feel sexy, right? OK, here's what you do: look at your wife and tell her you love her, and MEAN IT!!! That's a starting point. After that, it should be easy. Ask her what she would like from you, and you tell her what you would like from her. Good luck.

Answer 3

My husband is a workaholic. He puts his job ahead of me. We've been married for 13 yrs now, and I am ready to call it quits. I am very lonely, he don't pay any attention to me at all. I am only telling you this because I don't want that to happen to anyone else. The best thing I can say is DON'T WORK SO HARD. Your job is not important, your wife is. Take the time and just shower her with attention. Give her a hug all the time! Sit next to her and make cuddle time. Women crave being cuddled! You must take the time for you two to be alone together, even if it is once a month or even every other month. Never just dismiss the fact that 'yeah she loves me, I know she loves me, it'll be ok to not go anywhere together.' ~NOT. My husband and I have had only one date since our honeymoon in 13 yrs. The reason being is because of work, the kids, the bills, etc. And yes, the passion is gone forever. It is very important to pay attention to your wife! Please understand that she is craving attention, she is craving love and passion. Nothing is more important than your family, especially not your job. You can get another job, but you cannot get another wife. Cuddle, cuddle, cuddle!!

Answer 4

22 years is a long time to be married, you guys should be proud. Sometimes I feel like she does, but I just have to accept that I am not 20 anymore. Now I am a good looking 34 year old.She must be doing something right to be married that long.
We have been married for 15 years I have found that we have become best friends. I think reminiscing about how you met and old times, like dates, having your kids and other significant things helps. It makes you remember why you fell in love in the first place. Lingerie and vacations are OK, but everyday life is more important. If you are working all the time she is probably lonely too. Marriage and family are more important than material things.

Answer 5

Listen Henry you dont need a fancy vacation or trip.You just need a little romance.Get a baby sitter if you need one if not have the kids stay over at a friends or relatives.Send your wife flowers and pick her out the most loving romance card you can get.Have her to go to the store for you that night for anything,While she is gone put some candles around the bedroom and bathroom.Draw a bath with bubble bath.,make sure candles are in the bathroom too.Meet her at the door in your robe smelling good with a glass of red wine ,tell her she is the love of you life and things have been a little off key but she means the world to you and always will and give her a sexy bubble bath and brother let the night begin.Good Luck to both of you.

Answer 6

Make sure your wife talks to her doctor. Men are not the only ones who occasionally have a chemical imbalance resulting in low sex drive.

Whatever you do, don't imply that you spend your time doing "important" things and so can't be there for her. There's no better way of telling her that she's NOT "important".

The grand gestures that other people are suggesting are great - a weekend getaway, a nice gift, etc. but the single best way to make your wife feel sexy is to tell her that she is. Every morning and every evening. Look her straight in the eyes over your morning cereal and tell her she's beautiful. When she's washing the dinner dishes, whisper it in her ear. Soon enough she'll start believing you. What do you figure that'll take . . . 30 seconds a day?

Good luck!

Answer 7

Welcome, Henry. Hope you enjoy it here. You need to take the time for you and your wife. There is NOTHING more important than family. No one ever says "I wish I would have spent more time at work" on their death bed. Plan a weekend get away for just the two of you. Pamper her, send flowers for no reason, call her during the day to tell her how much you love her. Little things can make a huge difference. Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

thankyou for your personal info, i will relish stealing your identity.

FIRST THING YOU SHOULD LEARN IS NEVER EVER EVER GIVE OUT ANY NAMES OR PERSONAL INFO.

i am just kidding about stealing your identity, not enough info to do that, but it should be a wake up call and a good warning for you in the future not to put out info like your full name and kids names.

now about your rekindling your romance and stuff, don't know what to tell you other than maybe start dating and stuff, do things that you would normally do when you were out on a date with her before you married

Answer 9

Show her what you have just written :)

Hmmm....being that age myself, I understand how your wife feels

When my fiancee tells me I am sexy and he can't keep his hands off off mee....I feel good. When I feel good...MEOW :)

Hmmm...if she sees herself as a fat middle aged old cow as I have described myself more times than I can count, she might throw skimpy, see-through night clothes, in your face, and run away crying.

Hold her, whisper in her ear how much you love her and how much you need her. Tell her you appreciate all she has done for you.

Feeling wanted, loved,and lusted after by her special man makes a woman of any age glow, and purrrr, and feel sexy again...then you can bring on the sexy teddies :)

Good luck to you Henry.

Answer 10

Hi,Henry. My advice is simple. Women Love Compliments. Just things like...walk by her and say...."You look nice today"..( but not if she doesnt cause she will think you only want sex..wait until she is dressed up..) Also...if she doesnt mind you smackin her on the butt...Do It! Smack her and say something like "Look at that sexy butt"...Just compliment on anything about her..If she thinks you only want sex...tell her, " Not unless you do,hun." And also..ummmm.....Make Time! Ask her out on a date...Fix a picnic for the two of you and Make the Time....and COMPLIMENTS ....COMPLIMENTS....COMPLIMENTS... I hope this helps...Take Care. and God Bless.