Can a "good" girl ever be happy?

Question

I'm in my early twenties and have lived a "good " life. This meaning that i'm a good Christian girl who has high morals in my way of life. I value the importance of family and keeping a relationship with God. The problem is that I don't have alot of friends and I am often depressed because I'm left out of alot. I think that it deals with the fact that I don't party or drink since it's something that I chose not to do in my life. I try to make friends all the time, but it gets back around to never being invited out to do anything, no one has ever asked for my number or just to chill. I like to have fun!! I would be happy if someone would like to just hang out and watch a movie or to go out and eat! I don't want to go to clubs or bars or anything like that, it's just not me... People always say "you're such a pretty, nice girl." They say this by also adding that it's smart to stay nice and sweet... while they live rebelliously and have fun while I'm alone every weekend.... I need help!

Answer 1

I totally understand where you are coming from. I think that all "good" girls like you and me go through a period where we feel alone; I think that these times in our lives is where our faith is really tested. But even though it is hard to see everyone else going out and being carefree and having fun, you must stay true to your beliefs. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to go out partying and drinking. Just keep your beliefs; ask God to give you the strength and the courage to resist temptation and stand up for your beliefs. You should also avoid situations where you know that you will be tempted. Find some friends that share the same beliefs as you do; then you won't have to worry about sinning, just to fit in. Hang in there and be strong in your beliefs! Good luck!

Answer 2

Honey, don't put so much pressure on yourself. Be who you are, and don't worry about living up to the church's morals, or your parents' morals, or anything else like that - decide what you want YOUR morals and values to be, and then stick by them, because it's who YOU are.

I know exactly what you feel like. I used to be the same way, sitting at home while all the people I knew went to parties and had a blast. Then I actually tried that lifestyle for, oh, one night... and I ended up drunk off of my butt, naked with a guy I barely knew, my parents had no idea where I was (I was 17), and I got in a crapload of trouble. Trust me when I tell you that partying with those people was not worth it.

Instead, try to find people whose ideas are more in line with your own! Try your church's youth groups/young adult groups, and here's the thing: Don't just sit at home and wait for people to call you. Call them first! Plan fun things! If you sit at home, you will get depressed, so get out and have some fun.

(And to answer your question, "nice girls" who stay true to themselves end up much, much happier than the ones who are out partying wildly.)

Best of luck, from one "nice girl" to another!

Answer 3

of course Yes
just meet the right people
it is good to see a girl that just wants to hang out, see a movie or go out n eat.
of course its smart to stay nice .u can have fun weekends
outside without being a "rebel" as u say.
its good that u choose what you want to do, some people just let themselves go like zombies in parties etc..

n.b: the christian thing..... that may not be a good thing. try to be urself without Christian Influence
a Good girl with her own mind and views: is cool.
think for urself, ur own values And christianity.
and, maybe "fun" hasnt got the same meaning 4 everyone..

what is a "good girl" exactly?

Answer 4

You need to find a boy (or just some girlfriends) with a similar outlook on life, perhaps through your church. Don't even consider compromising on your values for the sake of a little light entertainment.

Answer 5

you'll realise soon enough that there is no god and that you would have wasted your 20's for nothing, literally. If you choose not to drink etc let it at least be your own decision, not some supposed command by a mirage.

Yeah and try not toting your religion around like a burlap sack, it's judgemental by nature. Didn't 'jesus' say to praise him in a closet. Get over yourself, it'll do you good.

Answer 6

My wife is a "good" girl and I think she's happy. So, yes, it can be done. But that's not exactly the point is it? I have a cousin who met his wife on eharmony. Have you tried it? Might give it a shot. Then, it depends on where you live too.

Answer 7

you don't have to drink and go to bars just to have fun. that's the dumbest thing i've ever heard. but re-think yourself. do you dress omish? do you act like anything including ONE beer is "o so sinful"? then give yourself a makeover and invite the friends that you DO have..over. ♥