I live beside my mother in law my husband and i have 2 kids witch are her grandchildren and everytime we call over there to ask if they could watch our boys for about one hour or so it is ALWAYS NO! But they have 3 other grandchildren that they have ALL the time keeping them taking them places and everything . I know it sounds like that i am jealous but i am really not my kids ask to go over there and they get shut down ALLL THE TIME what can i do?
2006-08-22 14:36:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, if she is treating you that way, then she is probably bad mouthing you behind your back, too...to her friends and other relatives. She don't like something!!! Have your son talk to her and lower the boom on her (don't you get into it! Stay back! That's HER baby. Let him handle it). That's not right! Get it out in the open, NOW! It takes as long to get out of a problem as it does to get into it. I hope your children aren't looking out the window while their cousin's play over at "granny's". Just because someone is old doesn't mean they are nice. Don't you and hubby argue over this. She wants that. Well, "nuff" said.
2006-08-22 14:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by fishermanswife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do if they are not fond of your children and play favourites with their other granchildren.It was the same with my in-laws too. So I explained to my children that their grandparents were being mean and that they were not worth bothering about. We didnt need th em ino our life, and so we would get by without them. It is hard to explain to a child that somebody does not love them but they need to understand that it is NOT their fault and they cannot change the fact that there are mean people out there. In the end we made a joke about the old grumpies and laughed at them
Not really good but better than breaking a childs heart. O and by the way , my children are the favourites now because they have done so well, dont drink, have jobs and went to uni while the others are out of work losers
We and our children did not hold grudges. But we still dont like t hem very much
2006-08-22 14:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by virginia o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 10:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by pachter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eeeww. living next door to your in laws. yuck. that should be against the law, very unhealthy .
i know how nosey ordinary neighbours are and they dont have an invested interest, i can just amagine what my inlaws would be like if they lived next to me. ha ha it puts a smile on my face.
they would know way to much about your family dynamics.
so what i would do if my inlaws were'nt interested in my kids is show the grandparents that they are'nt a nessesary part of the kids life, dont even ask them to mind the kids. i think once you take the controll away from them they will relize what they are missing out on. if they dont relize that then woo hoo you might be lucky enough to not have to deal with them again.
as you probably guessed i dont get on too famously with my inlaws.
2006-08-22 16:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by shandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely stop calling. If you don't call, email, or anything she might realize that she misses the calls and being needed all of the time. She might feel guilty and offer to help out more often.
2006-08-22 14:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you live to close to your In-Laws..they probably see more of your children than the rest being you live so close..I loved my In-Laws but I wouldn't .The want to live that close..Put some distance between you all..What does your husband think..It's his parents. The less she sees of your kids the more they will want to see of them...
2006-08-22 15:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go overe there and set down wuth them and ask them why they make a diffrent in the grands kids because that not faur to them
2006-08-22 14:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by marbo1023 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant do anything, it is the grandmothers choice. maybe have ur husband talk to her and explain that the kids want to spend time with her,
2006-08-22 15:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit asking
2006-08-22 14:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by janell b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move! Absents make the heart grow fonder.
2006-08-22 14:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Boxcars 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋