A co-worker of mine and his wife are about to get a divorce. I feel really bad for them (I know both of them). I told him today that if he wanted to talk, hang out, or go to dinner, or whatever with my husband and I, to give us a call (we both work at the same place with him). Is there anything else we could do to show him that we're thinking of him and help him out? Perhaps people who have been thru a divorce will have some good answers. Thanks.
2006-08-22 14:26:53 · 13 answers · asked by animal_mother 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I have been faced with difficult situations in life, the simple fact that there is someone who shows genuine interest usually is enough to help me get though this. I will ask that you give NO advise. Doing so may lead to judging and misinterpretation. Especially if you know both people here. An opened ear, a good shoulder, and sometimes a hug is perfect for any situation. You don't always have to be there. We're all grow ups and life has many challenges that we sometimes have to face alone. And never be with him alone. Emotional moments can sometimes lead people to do stupid things. Group hugs anybody?
2006-08-22 14:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by subjex@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be his friend.... i have went through divorce and the first one was really the worst...we had been married 23 years...but is he getting a divorce cause he wants it too..??? you and your husband just do things with him to keep him busy and keeping his mind on other things besides his divorce... though at times it is good to let him talk his feelings out if that is what he wants to do...divorce is a hard thing at times especially when there are children involved....he just has to take one day at a time and work this out....it does not go away over night...a lot depends on how long they were married....the longer they were married i think it hurts more...i just felt lost but i knew that i had to get out of the abusive relationship....i only had one son left at home and i just could not take anymore...so hopefully he knows it is best that they got the divorce if they were having problems that they could not deal with....
2006-08-22 14:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that regardless of the divorce or not you will still support him and be friends.....and when he's around don't mention the divorce just treat him like you always have, the worst thing is when people pity you...be honest if your going to be available to help invite him over for dinner on a football night or something like that the feeling of family will lighten the load and the game will get his mind off his troubles...something like that every couple of weeks will give him something to look forward to until he gets through these trying times
2006-08-22 14:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've about covered it. But don't depend on him to initiate contact. You invite him to have dinner with you every so often. It's about the worst thing a guy can go through (They don't call it the pits of depression for no reason.) and dinner or lunch once in a while will probably help.
2006-08-22 14:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know both of them why are you only trying to be friends with him? I would think that she also needs to feel like she still has some of her old friends. Maybe you and your husband should just stay out of it!
2006-08-22 14:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much to do...his thoughts of failure and low self esteem are the biggest enemys (even if it's not his fault). Let your husband take the lead so mixed emotions don't get misplaced, stay in the background for support.
2006-08-22 14:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't know what to ask for. I'm sure he is confused and hurting, so is she. You have made a good start. You might also invite him with you to social events. Sometimes singles don't feel they can hang with couples. But really they can and it makes them feel more normal.
2006-08-22 14:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-22 14:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-22 14:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stick by him and be there for him to talk to as a friend
2006-08-22 14:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by lisaslife02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋