2006-08-22 13:59:20 · 28 answers · asked by johnnydean86 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both.
2006-08-22 14:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately cheating. Two wrongs don't make a right and I think even you know this. Revenge would be dumping a gallon of neon paint on his/her car or cutting the crotches out of all their pants...that's revenge. Cheating is having sex with someone else when you are in a relationship. I didn't make the definition, that's just how it is. It doesn' t really matter who did what first. What matters is how it made you feel and rather than dealing with that, you went and evened the playing field. It works for some, but most of the time, that instant gratification of "ha ha I got you back" wears off and then you are both at ground zero and not able to trust the other as far as you can throw them. And once that happens, it's just the begining of an end. I wish I could tell you otherwise, but that's just the way it goes.
2006-08-22 14:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happened to the old saying "two wrongs dont make a right"? But I guess it all depends on how it came about, did they do it because they found out the other person did it, or was it not known on either end? Only the person that did it would know if it was revenge. There is no way around the fact that if they slept with someone else though, that is cheating, clear cut!
2006-08-22 14:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating
2006-08-22 14:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other options other than ‘cheating’ or ‘revenge’… ‘Dishonest’ and ‘unfaithful’ come to mind for starters!!!
You haven’t actually clarified what it is you are talking about…. Is it cheating, or revenge, if the other did it first?… Did what first?
Anyway, most people will probably assume that you are talking about having a sexual relationship with someone other than your partner, so I will target my response on the same assumption.
Let’s assume that your partner had sex with someone else… How did you find out about it?… Is she sorry for what she did?… Is it likely to happen again?… Do you love her enough to forgive her?
You are obviously considering having sex with someone other than your partner, as a means of getting back at her… Will that achieve anything, as far as improving your relationship is concerned?… If you consider it was wrong for your partner to have sex with someone else, why would it therefore not be wrong for you to do the same???
I guess what it has to come down to, is you having to make a decision… Is your relationship with your partner, worth saving? If it isn’t, then end the relationship with her, and get on with your life!!!
If, on the other hand, the relationship is worth saving, then you will need to ‘forgive and (try to) ‘forget’. Your partner is human… she is entitled to make mistakes. If she is genuinely sorry for what she did, then you need to forgive her. Without your forgiveness and understanding… the relationship is doomed!!!
2006-08-22 14:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is wrong no matter what it is for if you can't forgive than get out of relationship now. It is considered cheating no matter what the reason revenge is just what people call it if they want to get back at their significant other.
2006-08-22 14:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is no matter who did it first. Once someone cheats in the relationship, than it's pretty well over. You've lost the trust and respect that goes into a relationship. There's a old saying that is still around. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You may fool yourself into believing that it will never happen again because they say the words but you can forgive but you will never forget.
2006-08-22 14:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is considered cheating. It doesn't matter that the other person did it, it is still cheating. Remember hearing 2 wrongs do not make a right? This is what applies. You can demand that they seek counseling with you, should you want to work out your problems, if not, leave him/her.
2006-08-22 14:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's both. If you are a woman, let me tell you, is not worth getting back on your spouse in tha manner. If you are a man, cheating is a legal ground for divorce if you can't forgive. If you stay with your cheating partner without forgiving, it will be hell, and is gonna end up in divorce anyway. So, think about it. Don't do anything stupid.
2006-08-22 14:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is considered to be one upmanship to try to out do the other half. will you like yourself for doing more to end a relationship. so it is both cheating and revenge and both can lose you a chance to make a start all over again.
2006-08-22 14:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by ehatis98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating no matter who did it first. Two wrongs don't make a right.
2006-08-22 14:02:40 · answer #11 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋