He denies it, says he loves me, yet he constantly is watching other women. I feel insignificant and desrespected. Am I being ridiculous?
I told him most women do NOT like being touched. I don't. I don't appreciate someone touching my cheek or shoulder (it's like a caress). He thinks I'm being overly jealous. Am I? I don't think so.
2006-08-22 13:37:21 · 17 answers · asked by Nancy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You guys are great!!! He is trying to be better, he knows it hurts me. But he still makes me feel that I'm being overly jealous. I don't think I am. Thank you.
2006-08-22 13:49:18 · update #1
You know, actually, I'm not a loser. I'm an artist, have money, not bad lookin' and been divorced 10 years. I have a lot of fun with this guy, it's just that every time we go out in public, it gets bad. I don't like feeling insecure or jealous. But I don't think his behavior is okay. So I will take all your thoughts to heart. Thanks. Nancy
2006-08-22 14:41:53 · update #2
Does that fact that he's actually trying to be better change anything? Or am I kidding myself.
2006-08-22 14:43:05 · update #3
LEAVE HIS ***
2006-08-22 13:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shanae :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want to believe that he is better but if you are still feeling jealous than there is something wrong. People don't usually feel jealous unless someone has given them a reason to be. Maybe he likes seeing you in pain. Maybe he feeds off that. If that's the case get rid of him. You can find someone else that makes you feel good and have fun with.
2006-08-22 22:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm.. i think you should dump him. I mean really. He's 54 and flirting with other women. You deserve much better than that and I dont think he'd appreciate you touching and flirting with other guys. And if he does let you than there must be some more than jus flirting and touching goin on. So i think before you get really really hurt, you should end it now because you dont kno where this may be leading to. Really think this over and wonder if this is worth it.. especially wasting your time if this is going no where. k Good luck and really think bout it. You can also pray on it and see what God can show you.. that works alot too. :)
2006-08-22 21:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not over jealous. BUt if I was you I would just ignore it. He KNOWS it bugs you and I am sure that is one of the reaosn he is doing it. Also he is 54 so he might be going through a phase. He needs to feel younger. If I was you I would go flirt with other guys innocently. When you see him touch a girl...flirt with her innocently. Or another guy in front of him.
2006-08-22 20:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being overly jealous, you just want the respect that you deserve. He thinks he's a lady's man, and that ALL women enjoy being hit on by him. He's a jerk and I think YOU should be doing some looking around.
2006-08-22 20:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you such a loser that you date a guy who's 54, and still gets drunk? AND paws other women? Opps, I meant touches- or caresses. No matter, it bothers YOU- and this jerk doesn't care, and dismisses your wishes, cuz your're jealous. Dump the guy, or be treated with contempt.
2006-08-22 21:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is your self-respect looking???
Do yourself a favour… Whilst you still have an ounce of self-respect left… Dump the loser!!!
You have been hurt before… You deserve better than to be hurt again!!!
I wish you luck with finding a relationship where you are not being used… This one isn’t it!!!
2006-08-22 22:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him. He obviously has no respect for you or, as far as that goes other women with his unsolicited actions.
You should feel insignificant.... and you are certainly not getting any respect.
He really doesn't think you are being overly jealous, he is thinks you are stupid...
show him you aren't , dump him..
2006-08-22 20:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am dealing with a husband of 50 years who I am told touches other women I have nothing so what can I do
2014-07-25 07:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by GROVER F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same age, and I think he wants something more.. that doesn't mean you are less, it just means he is the peter pan never grow up type that wants every attractive woman he can have. These things might not be so overt when sober, but seem to show themselves when less inhibited,
Trust your instincts!
2006-08-22 20:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually give paragraphs worth of advice, but this one's easy: LEAVE HIM. NOW. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
And after you leave him, then sit down and really think hard about why you stayed with someone who treated you like you didn't matter. I've had someone like this, and after I left him, that kind of introspection led to the realization that I didn't think I WAS worth a better man. I then convinced myself that was not true at all, and I now have a guy who treats me like a queen. (And if he didn't, I'd leave him, too, because I know I'm worth it!)
2006-08-22 20:42:18 · answer #11 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋