She has a part-time job where she deals with the public and I'm afraid she's leading men on by not telling them she's married and not wearing her wedding ring. Men have given her their phone numbers. I don't think she's called any of them yet, but not sure. As her friend, I've told her she's heading down a dangerous path, but she seems to enjoy the attention she's getting and isn't listening to me. What should I do? SHould I just stay out of it?
2006-08-22 13:37:18 · 19 answers · asked by Proof 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah it is wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right. But there is not much you can do, she will have to make her own mistakes.
2006-08-22 13:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as a friend you should stay out of it. Because it is totally her life she is putting at risk here. I mean just because she is unhappy in her marriage get a freaking divorce and don't let that be the reason she gets herself hurt out here with other men. Cuz if she ever comes across the wrong guy and he finds out she was married he could hurt her really badly. And it would all be on her cuz she wasn't woman enough to get the divorce.
2006-08-22 13:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but don't go to far away. She is unhappy because she is craving attention and she thinks she is happy because someone else is giving her the attention that her husband should be doing. Sooner or later she is going to come crashing down and will need you there for her to lean on. She really needs to look at her life and see what will make her happy. If her marriage isn't doing that for her than she needs to get out of it. We all only live once and we need to make each day special for ourselves. I've put this question to a couple of my friends in the past who were in the same situation "ask her if she were to die tomorrow, would she die a happy person". To me they all said no and I told them to change the things that brought them down. Maybe you could ask your friend that question and see what she says. It might get her to start thinking.
2006-08-22 14:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be a friend and love her no matter what, BUT advise her that she needs to face up to the hurt inside of her. If she is truly unhappy, she should face it head on and change her situation. This means telling her husband exactly what she is feeling and thinking.
A friend is usually the ONE person you expect to tell you the WHOLE truth and love you anyway! A friend "has your back" and a friend never fails to protect you from embarrassment or bad judgment. IF your best friend can't confront you, then my God who can??? (and what sort of a friend sits back and LET'S you make a fool of yourself.. that is NO friend that you want to keep!)
It is my opinion that people have a right to change their lives if they want to, and unfortunately that may hurt other people, BUT they do not have the right to disrespect people and deliberately become dishonest with people, ESPECIALLY people they are supposed to love. The honest thing to do is make no damaging changes to the relationship without telling the partner what they are thinking and they must give the situation a chance to be handled with respect and dignity to all involved.
If she wants to leave, she should tell her husband BEFORE she goes. Cheating on him is just wrong. He deserves to know what is going on in her head so that they can fix it or leave each other with dignity (and possibly a friendship) intact.
2006-08-22 14:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by starshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, that you are involved,by her telling you what is going on, she got you involved herself, but just stay involved in it passively. I would ask her why they are still married? There is no situation where an affair is ok, just get out of the marriage and go on your marry way. Why stay married if you going to be with someone else anyway?
2006-08-22 14:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should fix her marriage, or end it. THEN, she can flirt, or play, with anybody she wishes. Until then, she IS cheating, even IF she just leads men on, without actually having sex. You should stay out of it, since you've already given her good advice. BUT, don't keep speaking with her, IF she's going to act like a hot pants slut.
2006-08-22 14:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes an affair would be wrong. If she is interested in having sex with someone else she should get a divorce first!!! And yes, you should stay out of it because it will ruin your friendship. You have already voiced your opinion to her....it's up to her whether or not she listens.
2006-08-22 13:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Melm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair is not a good idea. It may lead to an acrimonious divorce, and undesirable division of property.
Your friend and her husband need couples counseling. They need to go together, to figure out how their relationship went south, and whether they can get it back on track.
2006-08-22 13:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be lonely or craving attention, but it's not wrong for your friend to be friendly. It would be wrong if she has an affair.
Your friend needs to get marriage counseling or a divorce if she's so unhappy.
There is nothing that you can do since you said that she doesn't listen to you.
2006-08-22 13:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by justagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair is always wrong. The right thing to do is either fix it or end it. If you go with someone who is unfaithful to their partner what makes you think that they will never be unfaithful to you?
stay out of it, you might end up the only loser in the end.
2006-08-22 13:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An affair is wrong in every case. She should get divorced and then date other men if that is what she wants to do.
2006-08-22 13:55:11 · answer #11 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋