Is unconditional love also about loving a sociopath/psychopath?

Question

i fell in love with a man, who hurt me immensely.. i left him but still continued to love him!!
He got back to me and used me for my money and other intimate things and lies to me for everything.. He doesnt know what is love or care..
I realise this after 6years and feel a lack of self esteem.
i thought i lovedhim unconditionally, but i dont now.. what does it mean

Answer 1

You know what a sociopath is right ? It is a person INCAPABLE
of love. They are charming..manipulating, and very good at it.
They blame their problems on everything else, but themselves.
They are like an empty shell. It's almost as if they have no soul.
Perhaps, they are lost souls. They are like mimes, they can
only imitate others emotions, but they have no emotions for
others. Only for themselves. Narcassistic. Don't let ANY "man"
disrespect u or mistreat u. You deserve better. Run...don't walk.

Answer 2

the best Answer.

I am a sociopath/psychopath and We can love. and when we do love it is a very overwhelming love that would make most peoples love seem insignificant compared to this love. but unlike most peoples love. it is very easy for us to stop loving something and it is an almost an immediate change. Most people take a very long time to stop loving someone. It takes us only minutes where one moment we would destroy the world for the one we love and the next we are beating them to death as we only contain pure hate for the person. I would advise that you do not date a sociopath/psychopath as are love is not unconditional we will not love someone no matter what they do.

Answer 3

We should be very careful to know this difference: There is no human possibility for anything to be unconditional because for the simple fact we are human. If what I hypothesize of your condition is true, you are suppressing your defense for an idea which is superhuman, you are stupifying yourself for a cause which has proven itself destructive for you and no good for anyone else. Certainly the love you are experiencing is valuable, the highest value in fact, but it is wasted on someone who may possibly have no love in them, abnormal. The love you experience is the template for universal human love, the love in humanity, and this is a good idea to have, a sound basis to compare all other components or constituents in human essence.

If you are feeling low because you judge yourself a failure, this is what this kind of person is looking for in you to use you. He has used you and you are suppressing anger, and this is my opinion, you are suppressing your outrage, your anger at this injustice. This suppression shall certainly make you feel low and depressed. My suggestion is that you find a support group to join with others with similar experiences of abused women. Another idea is to look into legal assistance, legal aid.

Feelings of guilt are not necessary for you to have the ability to correct yourself, so liten up and get help.

Answer 4

Loving someone unconditionally doesn't always mean being with them physically. If someone is hurting you and you know it is going to continue...or if they are doing something illegal or harmful to other people as well you can still have love for them but acknowledge that it isn't safe for you to be with them...or that it isn't safe for anyone else if they are on the loose.

I totally understand where you are coming from...I was in a relationship with a man who was a sociopath...and a habitual liar as well. I went through the whole mourning phase when I left...feeling like maybe it was my fault and I could have possibly done something to change it other than just leave...feeling angry that he didn't treat me with the love and respect that I treated him...now I acknowledge that I loved him and that he really didn't understand what love felt like if it wasn't self-serving. I love him as a human and I care that he may be doing things that hurt his future well being or that he takes advantage of others the way that he took advantage of me...but I truly believe that this behavior is who many people are...just like an alligator drags large animals into the water to eat them...just like sharks smell blood in the water and come to see what it is that they can eat...some people are this way as well...and I don't really think that another person can change their nature.

You can respect him as a human and care for his well being...but I don't suggest hanging out in the hopes of changing him for the better or expecting him to change his colors...it isn't likely that he will...it is who he is. The major deciding factor for me was when I realized that as long as I was with my ex I was going to do my best to NOT have kids...because his behavior wasn't good enough for any child... So...why was it good enough for me? I left after this realization and though I have gone through the whole mourning process with this relationship I never really looked back...I went far enough away that he couldn't follow me...from Arizona to Alaska.

Answer 5

Ouch!! This notion of "unconditional love" is one that has trapped many in situations that no one should be subjected to... except when it is in line with ones Fate Karma. Even then, there is a point when the "need" to experience this type of relationship comes to an end... and when it does, one must flee with shouts of freedom. And I can only imagine that you were not done with the abuse if you voluntarily entered into it again?

The concept of "unconditional love" is only a concept on the physical plane of existence. The concept refers to the Love of God... and anyone, other than a Perfect Living Master (God in human form), who suggests that he/she has unconditional love is mistaken. This does not mean that one might put up with rather heavy doses of abuse without complaint... but it does mean that one does not do this from a position of "unconditional love" or what I assume refers to absolute Love, which is of God.

My doubt rests in the reality that once one enters the Spiritual realm within oneself, where one can experience absolute Love [which means absolute Acceptance], one has risen above the need to be abused.

Unless there is some compelling reason for one to put up with abuse... like a psychological "need" to be abused... there is no excuse for subjecting oneself to it. And, the psychological need needs to be addressed professionally. Peace

Answer 6

Loving unconditional doesn't mean you have to take abuse or mistreatment from the person you love.

Even if you love somebody, sometimes you just have to cut the strings, to save your self ( self preservation)

Unconditionally basically means to love with out strings or judgment, or any expectations

Answer 7

Unconditional love is more about the sociopath loving you...

Answer 8

unconditonally means u love some1 no matter waht but its difficult sometimes but they deserve that love :)

Answer 9

Sweetie, you have serious issues. Seek professional help.

Answer 10

I know how you feel, all men are a**holes.