Iam a 22 year old unemployed mother who has made alot of wrong choices in the past, Iam in a relationship with the baby's daddy, but times are rough and he wants me to work or at least bring in some income. I have not been able to hold down a job for more then a feww months and havent worked in the past 2 years because my daughter was born and Ive been severly depressed. I have been thinking about going on welfare, but I think it would be best for me to go on it while living on my own with my dad, is this a good idea? I want temp help but also want to go to school so I can get a good job and gain confidence that Im lacking. my relationship is falling apart! i dont know what is the best thing for me , please help
2006-08-22 12:56:59 · 8 answers · asked by ~yAnKeE neNa~ 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
There are programs to assist folks in your situation. Depends on where you live. You need to get some answers. Try the nearest social service office.
2006-08-22 13:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can answer what is going to work out best for you. You are the only person who can answer that. I will tell you that it is hard to support a child on welfare. There is so much that a child needs and deserves that you can not afford on that small amount of money. Even temp minimum wage work pays more also it does not come with the stigma that welfare has. There are a lot of good programs that will allow you to work while going to school and pay you for both. Look into grants for schooling that include living expenses.
2006-08-22 20:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by shellybellycocoapuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my mom worked at the welfare Department for 20 years--and I would say that you need to do what is Best For you..If going on welfare temporarily would allow you to go back to school---then do it. BUT YOU MUST HAVE A GAME PLAN..Find out if the welfare department will pay for your college & provide you with free Daycare money for your daugter while you attend school during the day. ONLY get on welfare if it will allow you to do that. DO NOT get on welfare if you will use it as a crutch to lay around all day & be depressed and totally useless to yourself and society. Keep in mind that its called "Welfare to Work" now, so you must work part-time in order to stay on welfare..Also Remember that welfare is NOT what it used to be--and now it only lasts for 5 years--after that you are kicked off...So young lady, you have 5 years to change your life around--you better make the most of it. You are too young to be this depressed. Count your blessings--you have a lot going for you. Dont worry about your man right now, you better save yourself. (and if anybody writes you upset that you had a baby--then they better not be anti-choice & anti-abortion--since this is the result of their anti-abortion policies)
Peace
2006-08-22 20:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting the welfare asst. help would be great for you,while your on your own b/c your hunny won't let you starve if he loves you! Your really going 2 need it when your w/your dad.I would def. get on the list now though b/c it could take a while before you see any income coming in from the goverment....A lot of ppl want this kind of help just like you.Don't be depressed theres so many places you can get help from,being that you have a kid.Take care.
2006-08-22 20:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think living with your dad and getting assistance is a good plan. Your baby's dad should want you to be giving your daughter what she needs, not out bringing in a few bucks. His priorities are messed up.
As for what's best for you - the only question you should be asking right now is what is best for your daughter.
2006-08-23 00:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to live on your own with your dad?
Anyway, if you live with your dad, you're not living on your own so any income he makes is household income. If you live on your own, by yourself, you can get free housing, food, money for a car, clothes for a job, and help finding a job.
Go and talk to someone at the welfare office. I've never been on it but I kinda know about it.
2006-08-22 20:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know what state you live in but here in calif there's been a cut in benefits and funds. In calif they send you to classes to learn about job interviews and their may be some job training programs, at least you will be busy and this will help you to feel better. Go see a social worker for an interview and explain your situation and find out what help is available to you.
2006-08-22 20:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you clinically depressed? i mean are you disabled? it does not sound like you are. so let me give you my suggestion. grow up, straighten up and get at least a part time job. why are you depending on others, you will feel better doing for you and your child yourself. go to school, apply for financial aid, and start to learn a skill that you like and that you would enjoy doing as a job. welfare is for those who are in a very bad position, or disabled. maybe getting out and going to school will make you feel better. good luck!
2006-08-22 20:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋