what would u say?

Question

Ok some of u may think this is gross! If so dont answer!
I was at a bar with some we were all dancing drinkin haveing a good time! Well, my sisn-n-law dared me and this other friend of our to kiss! We did, she's done it before this was my first, it was pretty cool..lol..Hubby was told about it now he wants to have a 3-some I dont! I would kiss a girl agian but dont want any farther than that!
What should I tell my hubby? I dont want one but should I live out his fantasy or should I say no! What would u all say and do?

ok for those that dont understand It wasn't my sis-n-law that I kissed it was another girl!

my sis in law was the one that dared us to do it!!!

Answer 1

Pretty cool you say..well it seem your hubby was'nt around, and drinking can make us do crazy things. But you seemed to have enjoyed kissing your sister in law, and no doubt the other friend which you did'nt mention if it was a female or a male enjoyed it also. You did'nt seem to mind it, and this lead to your hubby asking you if you would get involved in a three way. It's his way of fanataizing about you with someone else or.....you can just watch
three ways are not for the faint hearted!!! It will definitly wreak disaster on your early marriage! It later will become a Trust issue.
Hope this helps

Answer 2

I know that this is the new millennium and everything but some things should still be sacred and marriage is one of them. I'm all for satisfying the husbands wildest fantasies short of another woman entering the equation. The potential for this type of arrangement to get out of hand and messy is enormous and not worth the trouble in my opinion. I think you should verbalize to your husband that you aren't comfortable with the idea of a threesome. If he's a good man then he'll value your opinion. When you go to him bring along an alternative idea such as role playing or something. He'll see that you are interested in fulfilling his fantasies but you're also wanting to be comfortable in the process. Hope it works out.

Answer 3

Well if your not interested in a 3 sum, then dont just do it because your husband fantasises about it. Chances are that will ruin your relationship and marriage. Just tell him you did not mind kissing another woman, but have no interest in doing other things. Maybe kiss a girl in front of him, then take him. Letting other girl watch maybe? Could be close to 3 sum as he gets, but sure he would at least enjoy it.

Answer 4

If you feel uncomfortable, DON'T DO IT! I'm a swinger, and the first piece of advice I give to anyone, is don't do what you don't like. However, I do know alot of women who wouldn't have entered the "lifestyle" without wanting to help their men fulfill their fantasies, and ultimately they found it a very pleasurable experience and enjoy themselves thouroughly. Obviously, they had probably had some fantasies about other partners and decided they'd like to act on them. If you really don't entertain any notion of enjoying the experience, tell your husband the truth. He'll respect your decision in either case.

Answer 5

Well you say you don't want to have a threesome so DON'T. Don't do anything that you are uncomfortable with. Sounds like this was "YOUR first girl experience" and yours alone (not hubbys) and you should keep it that way. Tell him to use his imagination if he wants while you are having sex. Him imagining it would probably be better than the real thing anyway (atleast for you : )

Answer 6

I think fantasies are just that so cool in the imagination and so bad in reality. If you don't wanna do it tell him NO WAY NOT HAPPENING....and leave it at that you could also add that you love him SO much and think he's so great in bed that you won't share him or add if he wants to make love to two woman than he can do you twice :p If he wants to watch two girls have sex than maybe a vidoe would do it.

Answer 7

Having sex with anyone but your spouse is cheating. It really doesn't matter why you play, or even if he OK's it- cheating is cheating. Forget this idea. What if he decides he'd like watching you have sex with a dog, a one eyed dwarf, or a hippo? Or he wants to play with other women or guys? Starting this stuff is a lot easier than stopping it.

Answer 8

You should do whatever makes you comfortable. If the idea of a three some is something that you are uncomfortable with, then I would say just leave it alone. If your husband trully loves you, he will respect that.

Answer 9

if you dont want to, then don't. your hubby will understand, but i mean would your hubby live out a fantasy of yours, even if he didnt feel comfortable with it? (ask yourself that and try to answer it honestly)

Answer 10

Dont do anything that u dont want to do. just because kissing is ok some things are not, be honest and let him know how u trully feel. dont do the 3sum if u dont want to.