Alot of people say the only way to love others is to love yourself first,but why is this so??? I need an in-dept answer.
2006-08-22 12:40:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
MiLuvIzLikeWhoa! I don't quite understand it myself but there are days I do.Crazy right?lol
2006-08-22 12:45:43 · update #1
Because, if you do not love yourself, you will be looking for
someone to fill the void in your life instead of just being able
to love and be loved. People who do not love themselves
cannot let others love them. They feel they are not worthy.
2006-08-22 12:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Crosscheck 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because if you don't love yourself first, a lot of the love you send out will just be subconscious attempts to get others to prove that you are indeed "lovable." When you already love yourself there is no need for constant reassurance that you are a good person or a lovable person. This allows you to give love from a secure position and receive love without it being something that just simply props up a floundering self-ego.
2006-08-22 13:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question roots decrease back to, "how are you able to adore others, in case you won't have the capacity to love your self?" that's stated as inner peace. In a hectic society like we've in the present day, that's complicated looking inner peace. This finally leads to human beings being depressed, taking tablets, seeing a counselor/psychologist/psychiatrist and finally end up a psychiatric ward. human beings say that's user-friendly to love your self, yet realistically that's no longer rather user-friendly. It takes time and lots attempt to surely admit the reality which you adore your self and each little thing approximately you is okay. We ourselves are the greater severe critics. Plus, once you do sincerley love your self, your waiting to come across inner peace and you gets alongside with close buddies, family and strangers plenty rather without feeling self-wide awake, offended or shy.
2016-12-11 13:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by mijarez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just the way people see things now. I could demonstrate that it works the other way round, also: if you want to love yourself you have to love the others, first. Demonstration:
1. "You have to love yourself if you want to learn how to love the others." Yes, indeed, you have to love yourself if you want to love the others. Loving yourself means knowing yourself, knowing what your qualities are and appreciating them and, at the same time, knowing what your weak points are and forgiving yourself for having them. this is the way to love the others: appreciate them for their qualities and forgive them for the weak points they have.
2. "You have to love the others if you want to learn how to love yourself." Loving the others is the key to start loving yourself. People are social beings, they like to have company. Nobody REALLY wants to be alone, that's why we actually need to love other people, so we can enjoy being with them. Little by little, we see the qualities that we love the others for in ourselves and start feeling more comfortable being alone. In the end, we love ourselves.
2006-08-22 12:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by mrquestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning to Love yourself means learning to confront and accept yourself in open honesty to yourself. Being able to accept the things you find enjoyable about being you and admitting to the parts of yourself that fall short of the mark. Accepting your weaknesses and faults will lead to to the path of correcting and changing them for the better. You will be willing to admit them to others and accept help from others to affect changes for the better within yourself. Once you can love and accept who you are and begin to make changes for the better in yourself, you will be much more willing to see past the faults of others and love them for their total being, not just the parts of them that you like or find attractive. If you don't love yourself, how can you actually expect to better yourself and reach your true potential?
2006-08-22 13:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving yourself is the foundation of how you'd like to be loved by others
2006-08-22 12:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by johnavaro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have NO idea! I don't understand that saying at all! I love many people, but most of the time, I hate myself! I wonder who came up with that saying!
2006-08-22 12:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by MiLuv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just impossible for you to have a good relationship if you dont truly love yourself. How can you expect someone to love you if you cant?!
2006-08-22 12:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept who you are, be confident in yourself and have trust in you before you could learn to love and trust someone else.
2006-08-22 12:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by LilSo1287 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually. One has to be able to forgive onesself for being human.
Before they can learn to forgive anyone else. The rest comes
easy.
2006-08-22 12:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋