About to try it to see if it will work for my marriage. How long does it take?
2006-08-22 12:33:55 · 10 answers · asked by JIM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you heard of Married for Life? It's a great 14 week course, and has saved numerous marriages. You can find out more online under
University of the Family. Give it a try, it's much more powerful then counseling. Best of luck to you. Great to know there are still people willing to work on their marriage. These days everyone seems to just throwing in the towel. Congratulation!
2006-08-22 12:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am not really sure becuase we're in a country where we dont do a lot of counselling, professional counselling that is. we dont also have divorce so the rate is quite slim..so couples stick through thick and thin, good to bad, sometimes bad to worst, literally speaking, sad but its true..the point is we stick to our commitment no matter what..we have our own 'counselling' thing..its more personal like we talk to friends that we trust or family or a pastor or a priest..its more on a personal level rather than professional..downside is some can be biased about the other but the thought that there's someone u can count on is just as good as counselling as it is :) but at the end of the day, the decision is still yours if u want to make the marriage work or not :) it can be as long as it takes or sooner..depends on how both of u are willing to work things out :)
2006-08-22 12:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this I can answer. Counselling does work. It migh not save a marriage but it will give you the tools you need at that time in your relationship to either work on your relationship, work out how to seperate nicly or heal old wounds just to list a few. It's is unique to each couple or person. And the time it takes also is unique to each individual...some people have 1 scession some go for years. Just be open to change and be yourself...good luck.
2006-08-22 12:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you both need to be committed to "making it work", I would recommend retrouvaille.org - they're "christianity based", however their message is great. They have couples who have survived infidelity, greed, prison time, physical and emotional abuse, and they teach you through their own stories - if you don't cry when you listen to them, you've got no heart - and when you compare what you're going through to what they've been through, it gives you a new hope. I am not affiliated with this organization, although I have been through their program. If you can't afford it, you don't have to pay. The program is a weekend first, and then 6 weeks (sunday for 3 hours), and then there's a "continuing ed" program that you can attend whenever you feel the need - it's usually scheduled once a month.
2006-08-22 12:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you are going. If you are going because you had love and respect in your relationship (at any point of your relationship) and you can still look at each other and see someone you at least like as a friend, then yes you have a chance. If you are going because people say you should, and somehow you are hoping you can suddenly start to love someone that you have basically lost all respect for and have never been able to trust, then no, it won't work. That's my experience.
2006-08-22 12:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by starshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may work if you are BOTH open and honest about it. It takes as longs as you may need within reason. Bear in mind that in these situations, the counselors don't have the answers .....you and your partner carry them within you and the job of the counselor is to help both of you to realize that and try to get an amicable solution. That is, one you can both live with. Best of luck!
2006-08-22 13:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how good your counselor is and whether or not both parties want to work things out. It also depends on how deep rooted your marriage problems are and how quickly you can forgive and beef up your communication skills.
2006-08-22 12:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The married couple have to be dead serious about saving the marriage and the counselor has to be good.
2006-08-22 12:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ........if both of you are determined to make your marriage work.
2006-08-22 14:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by cdnmedic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything would help unless you two really want to work....
2006-08-22 12:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋