I'm 25 years old, I try to conduct myself as a lady, but she threatened to kill my unborn child. I'm going tomorrow to file a restraining order but I'm still afraid something will happen. To add to this she is under 18. any suggestions?
2006-08-22 12:22:42 · 25 answers · asked by Bonnie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I've already spoken to her grandmother and nothing has been done about this.
2006-08-22 12:28:02 · update #1
He is younger than I, however he is over 18 And he isn't doing anything to help this situation. his family on the other hand is very supportive of myself and the baby.
2006-08-22 12:35:30 · update #2
i would file the restraining order...notify the juvenile court authorities...who should inturn alert her parents or guardians. document every time you have an encounter with her . telephone calls..noted.. times..and tape if possible. locations you run into her..also date and time. documentation is everything. everytimeshe comes to your home.. or near your vehicle call police. if she is outside...or near you...take a wide snapshot..with cell phone or camera. what is baby's father saying? get an additional document..of having an attorney writing to girl and her parents.. asking that the harassment.. stalking or whatever ..cease and that as a pregnant woman.. his client would be forced to do anything to protect her unborn if she should be attacked. make sure you do nothing.. to incite... do not go where she is or make any calls to her,
2006-08-22 12:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is threatening to kill your unborn child, you can do more than file a restraining order. I believe their is a law against threatening to kill people. And if she's under 18, where are her parental units? Why aren't they involved (if they even believe she did it). And what about the boyfriend? What is he trying to do to resolve the situation. Is he involved at all, or just sitting back and letting all this happen? This is HIS ex, His problem, too.
2006-08-22 12:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does your BF have an EX who is under 18? Is this guy mature enough to be a good father to your child? I hope so, for your sake and the child's!
I think the restraining order is a good idea to start with. But your BF should be stepping up to the plate right now!!! Is he allowing his EX to harass you??! If he really cares about having a kid with you he should be protecting you right now! If he's allowing her to play this game because HE'S playing some game, then you should think twice about this guy. Good luck.
RE: YOUR ADDED NOTE: "He isn't doing anything to help" See this as a warning sign: this dude is NO GOOD. I hate to say it, but he is part of the problem. That's nice that his family is supportive, but he sounds like he will be nothing but trouble for you. I'm sorry, but this is not the right guy to have a baby with. You will have to start to get used to the idea that you will raise this baby without him, I'm afraid.
2006-08-22 12:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter if she is under 18, if she is threading you and your UN-born child. The restraining order should help. Also your boyfriend should have a talk with her, and see if he can put a stop to it. And if she lives at home, contacting her parents or guardian may help. Do not threaten or cause her physical harm, as this will only cause you more problems. Especially since she is under 18.
2006-08-22 12:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing a good job by getting a restraining order. Since you are pregnant you cannot fight or anything so I think you should continue to conduct yourself as a lady and let the little girl act like a little girl... she is just acting like the child she is...Have your baby and limit your stress as much as you can for your child's sake...because there is nothing that little girl would love more than to make your pregnancy difficult....trust me its not easy I know...I am 3 months pregnant myself..and I do everything for my baby and not anyone else.
2006-08-22 12:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by LadyA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anyone that can support what your saying? If so, see what charges you can file! A restraining order is a good step, but that don't mean it will stop her! If she comes around, call the police! do you have a peep hole to see is at your door? Do not open your door if it is someone you don't know,talk through the door if you must to find out who it is. If it is her or she has sent someone over, tell them you have to put on a robe and call the police!
2006-08-22 12:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the restraining order. This will stop her from giving you anymore problems. I went through this, so i understand how you feel. You need to not stress because it is bad for you and the baby. Have your family and his family help you and support you in getting her to stop. Don't answer the phone or door to her. You aren't doing anything wrong so don't let her get to you. Good luck and God bless
2006-08-22 21:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by piperandfrog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why was he with a minor and is he a minor? But to get a restraining order you need to file a police report first and take the report number to the prosecutors when you go. But ..you should talk to him to and let him know what is going on w/her But kids act out and that is what she is doing for what ever reason
2006-08-22 12:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by blueseawale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you forsee a future with this man? i am assuming you have deceided to keep the baby...how old is he? i dont think it would do any good to tell "her" parents....any parent that doesnt KNOW what their minor child is upto isnt a good parent...a restraining order is good..if she has threatened you/yours over the phone you can buy a tap cheaply at radio shack..you must answer her calls with "hello, this call is being recorded" then give that recording to police ...they will turn around and charge her accordingly. I truely hope all goes well for you
2006-08-22 12:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by jeanene64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need some form of protection... Do get the restraining order but that probably won't do any good. If she does come within the certain restrictions you have the right to hurt her... right now you need to protect yourself and your baby. Tell your man to step up!
2006-08-22 12:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Taryn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋