2006-08-22 11:50:46 · 23 answers · asked by jami p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with Debbi248...Thats similar to what I was going to say....Marry someone you can't live without, not who you can simply live with. Take your time with this. If you are not sure, then don't rush. If he is the one you should marry, he'll understand your need to take your time. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 12:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by rachprime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are more concerned about your partner's happiness than your own. Please bear in mind, however, that a healthy relationship should improve you as a person, and be a blessing to your life. We should all respect ourselves enough to never "put up with" being abused, disrespected, or taken for granted. It is each of our responsibilities to set healthy boundaries with regard to these. But once we have acheived this balance within ourselves, we can safely enter into mature, respectful, adult relationships.
Just a thought: why is it that you feel you "should marry" anyone? Whatever you do, hon, do NOT marry someone just for the sake of being married. If you think about the wedding ceremony, what is it? It's a celebration of love. Each person wants so much for the other's happiness that they gather all their family and friends together to be witnesses to the miracle they have found in one another.
To be married means to change the way you live your life. And it has nothing to do with sex. It means that from that point on, your spouse's quality of life is your #1 priority. You are promising o be that person's best friend through thick and thin, a constant companion, a friendly ear, a shoulder to cry on, the voice of reason...and the kick in butt that we all sometimes need. I've read this and think it's perfect: You are one another's witness. "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will be its witness."
Another sign that marriage might be right for you and your partner is that you each want for each others happiness WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING in return. The magic happens when your partner returns this unconditional love...and you weren't expecting it.
2006-08-22 12:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well her are a few things you need to take into account does he make you feel all excited and do you two get a long so well and also do you feel like you could spend the rest of the rest of your life together and be happy and above all else do you love him full heartly that is the question you need to ask yourself and also you need to talk to him and see how he feels and you both have to decide wether you want to be together then you should ask others sorta as advice like your family or even see how everything goes and it also depends how long you have been together and the biggest thing of all is trust and love that is how you will determine wether you are gonna be able to be the one you or he marries
2006-08-22 12:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just know, if this is your one true love, this is it. If you feel like you cannot be without this person, they are the one. I was once told by a very wise lady, for a women at least, you need to marry the person who loves you more than you love them. They will treat you the best.
2006-08-22 11:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to decide that for yourself. How do you really feel about this person/? Are they the most fun to be with? When life throws a few punches, how do thye handle things like that. One bit of advice, never marry someone that you have not been through all changes of weather or seasons with.
2006-08-22 11:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tweek 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been engaged two times and never married either...and i happen to be one of the most caring people u would meet...give a lot and damn they take it all! You will know but to let you know I am almost 45 and guess what...no exhubbys!!! Good Luck girlfriend!
2006-08-22 12:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by shelley136692001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying that says not to marry the one that you can live with, but rather to marry the one you can't live without.
Imagine life without him, but don't get it confused with lonliness.
2006-08-22 12:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here r some major things dat breaks up marriage...if one's a spender (money) and one's iz a saver dat's a problem...one believe in physical disaplane and the other don't (kids) dats a problem....if both iz da leader dats a problem...on major area in belief system are different dat's a problem....feelings r like clouds...they come and go...Love iz a chose we make day by day...they will be days when chosing to continue on in a marriage..."death do us part" iz going to be hard to keep....I have more to say on the subject...however, not going into detail......asking iz a good things...not asking iz a dumb thing...most devioce come behind these issures.....
2006-08-22 13:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by cali_gent2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you think you can handle their whinning, complainning, and make sure that you spend 90 percent out of you workplace with them. Don't be fool, stay single as long as you can. Marriage is for security reason. If you are a secure person, don't get married until later. Marriage kill you slowly man. Take it from me. I'm dyging a slow death.
2006-08-22 11:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does he beat or abuse you ever cheated on you? Do you think about him all the time. Is he the man of your dreams or someone to sleep with? Does he have a job? Does he really care? Would he take of you if got real sick and wheel chair bound? I have seen it and that my dear is true LOVE.
2006-08-22 11:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋