OK - a few tidbits about me - I am a strong pro-choice supporter. I was raped at 16, and subsiquently got pregnant. I aborted the baby, and I feel NO REGRET. Not the day I had the procedure done, not the day after, not the week after, a month - and not now, 8 years later. So please, religous right - convince me why my choice was wrong. I am a successful college educated 24 year old, with my own house, and my own life.
So why is the only instance that it is "OK" to abort a baby is a question of the life of the mother? What makes her life worth more than the child she is carrying?
2006-08-22 11:48:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ok - more details.
When I was 22, I was posed with another problem. I was freshly married (2 months), and pregnant. My husband was trying to get me to abort the baby, but I refused. In my opinion, it was my right to chose, but I choose not to abort my baby that was created out of a loving caring relationship. It is a shame that I miscarried the baby at 8 weeks, after I had heard the heartbeat on the sonogram.
So, while I do see it as a 'right to chose', I don't agree with it as a form of birth control.
2006-08-23 04:30:12 · update #1
Because the mother has lived.
She has friends and family that care greatly about her and would be devistated if she was to die. Prehaps she's a single parent, the children she already have NEED her. It wouldnt be fair to risk orphaning your children.
The baby she is carrying is only a fetus. It hasnt came into the world yet. People may be anxious to see it and grow to love it but at the moment they dont love it.
2006-08-22 11:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by nazihalo_x 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are very angry. What you did was what you did. If after 8 years you feel the need to justify and convince yourself that you were correct in what you did leads me to believe that you are struggling with your decision. Nothing you or anyone else does can change what has been done Right or wrong it was your choice.
Being raped is a horible, horrible thing. I am sorry that you had to go through that and then through an abortion. No matter what you say or think, it is deeply rooted within us(females) to know when we conceive, we have a living thing within us. We certainly convince ourselves that it is only a blob of tissue but we know that that blob of tissue is alive. The struggles that come after the abortion points to the validity of why one should not have an abortion. If it didn't bother you....you would not have asked the question nor would you need to be convinved otherwise.
If you have not yet gone to therapy for being raped, I would strongly encourage you to do so.
You are a successful, college educated 24 year old, with your own house and your own life ....Are you wondering how different your life might have been if you had not had an abotrion and had your baby?
2006-08-22 12:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abortion is such a controversial topic. I think it might be important to mention that abortion has only become illegal in the last century. Prior to that time it was a very normal and accepted practice. The same is true for the barbaric act of circumcision. For some reason the last century made this a common practice. As for the theory that abortion is only justified if the mothers life is in danger supports the theory that she is already a productive adult that may already of the responsibility of caring for others and to sacrifice her for an infant doesn't make as much sense more or less. I personally think every individual should be able to choose whatever course works for them. All pro-lifers should have the pleasure of working with children that are physically and sexually abused, many of them starved by parents that simply do not want them in the first place. Perhaps those bleeding hearts should be held responsible for some of the lives they are so intent on saving since the parents don't want them.
2006-08-22 12:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tulip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 10:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by lurette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely your choice and if you are happy with it then who cares about what others have to say? It was right for you. You could of had the baby and it might have looked like the one who raped you. then you would have hated that baby and it would have been Innocent. Everyone has a diffrent situation to deal with. At 16 you are not even close to ready to be a mother. Your still a child. Why struggle for the rest of your life?
I'm not going to tell you that your wrong. Now if you got pregnant now by a boyfriend then you would be wrong. Now you are old enough to care for a child.
2006-08-22 12:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by simbah000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am a strong pro-life supporter. Although our view on the issue are different, I wont rant at you about your desision or anything. As long as the laws stand, it was your choice. If you want my personal opinion, I think abortian is wrong, no matter what. Rape or not. I think it is wrong. It's a really tough issue though, because sometimes i think about it, and i'm not sure i wouldn't abort a baby if i got pregnant right now. (i'm 15) but i hope i wouldn't. I do think it's a personal dicision, and it's mine to think it's wrong, it's yours to think it's right. I really don't know. I mean, a fetus would be a baby. I beleive that pregnancy only happens if it's meant to, so i think for me, it comes down to my religion. I think the life of the child is just as important as the life of the mother, in all cases. But I am happy for you that you enjoy your life now, and i wish you luck in the future. If you want to tell me your opinion more about this, blobtastic2000@yahoo.com
2006-08-22 11:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily agree with abortions, but I do believe that in cases of rape, incest, or if a pregnancy can be fatal to the mother that the choice can sometimes be the best option.
2006-08-22 11:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by teeniey37 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It isn't more important. It is worth the same. You should not have killed your child EVEN if you were raped. You could've at least put it up for adoption...
2006-08-22 11:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Susie 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋