I need advice!!!!!!!?

Question

In about 2 weeks I am starting HS in my freshman year... it is a private school (no nuns, not boarding school, it is really just like public school with uniforms at this school. i have some people from my small elementary schol that i want to keep in touch with, but i REALLY want to make new friends. I am usually shy, but i like makin conversations with strangers my age. I've never been in a group, like punk or goth or popular, but i have been known as a smart guy (im not nerdy, and i know that) i really want to make new friends in my classes, cuz noone else that i no is taking honors courses like me. i am taking boys tennis, and i might try out for student council. I am asking for REALLY GOOD AND USEFUL suggestions on the BEST way to make new friends, both boy and girl. Also, i consider myself good looking, and i want to know the BEST ways to make conversation with a girl i like and how to tell if she likes me back. i know this is alot, but i am really nervous and if you would take

the time to answer this, i would appreciate it GREATLY, and would be glad to give you 10 points.....thank you!

Answer 1

Do what I do to start conversations- make a random statement.

YOU: Man, this homework load is inhuman.
RANDOM STRANGER: Yeah, I stayed up 'til like two in the morning working on that stupid English essay on Of Mice and Men.
YOU: I know what you mean... Who needs Steinbeck? My life was going just fine without him?
RANDOM STRANGER: They tell us innocence is bliss, and then they educate us anyway!
YOU: It's BS. I want my ignorance back!
RANDOM STRANGER: You mean innocence?
YOU: No, with me it's ignorance.

And there you have a nice conversation.

Another way is to be a little odd- to the people who won't mind it. They'll remember me that way. If you go up to someone and say "Hi, I'm [name]. I don't know you. What's your name?", they'll either be amused, and say hi to you later, or they'll think "the hell?" and avoid you. If you're willing to take a chance though...

As for the girl thing, most girls find guys a lot more attractive if they think the guys are into them. This doesn't help if you're butt-ugly, but if you're reasonably good looking... Eye contact for one thing. It's a bit intimidating, but it gets the point across. Don't stare, unless you're unbelieveably gorgeous, in which case you can get away with almost anything. Just make contact. If you're the type to do the stare, look away thing... well, some girls find shyness cute. So that can work too... It depends on who you're trying to attract.

If SHE does the glance at you look away thing, she possibly likes you, or she possibly was just zoned out- so don't assume. If she makes contact however- doesn't look away immediately... Chances are she doesn't think you look half bad. And when making conversation, talk about normal things. The easiest way to get a date is talking about common interests- casually.

YOU: Hey, cool t-shirt! You like [insert name of band here]?
HER: Thanks! [Insert name of band here] is awesome!
YOU: Yeah, they're cool. Are you going to the concert next week?
HER: I wish. First off, I don't have tickets. And second, my parents don't like me going to concerts alone.
YOU: I'm guessing your friends don't like them then?
HER: Unfortunately, no.
YOU: Well, I've got an extra ticket. You could come with me if you want.
HER: Really? Sure! That'd be great!

Chances are it'll be a little less convenient and a little more awkward than that, but you get the idea: common interests= yay. Other than that, don't let the conversation die, and you should be good.

Answer 2

Be there for her and try and get her to talk to her parents... By her talking to them gives her more options on wether or not she wants to keep it or even adoption she has more options now than she will later. Her parents will find out eventually just make sure it's not to late. And be a good friend and try and help/guide her to make the choices she wants and not what anyone "wants" her to do because she am has to deal with it later on in life no matter what she decides... And like the girl before said her parents will grow to the idea and yes there's a chance they'll loose it but the won't hurt her or the baby. So encourage her to make her decisions that will benefit her in the end.

Answer 3

I think you're on the right track. Having a positive attitude is the first step and you have that.

Maybe make yourself a goal. Like on the first day of school make it your goal to introduce yourself to 10 guys and 5 girls. Just go up and say "hi, I'm Jon. I don't really know anyone here - do you?"

On day two make it your goal to say hi (by name) to 5 of the people you met the first day.

By friday, make it your goal to make plans with someone for the weekend. Use a line like "I'm trying to get some people together to rent a movie - want to come?" that way, if no one else takes you up on it, you didn't lie and say "I'm having a ton of people over to watch movies." Invite your elementry school friends as well - you'll look like you have lots of friends to the new friends!

Answer 4

Friendship begins with sincerity. Open your mouth and speak just what is into your heart and mind. Never lie and let they know you and what you want in this life. That is the magical formula.

Answer 5

compliment them in some way. become active and converstations will start.

Answer 6

um ya good luck