I would take the side of the realist because whenever I try to open the eyes of someone with a victim mentality to the possibility that they might be a victim of their own faulty perspectives, I find it exremely annoying when a well meaning martyr type defends "the poor innocent helpless victim" against my high quality provocation. The martyr type often turns on me and tries every trick in the book to get me to leave her "baby" alone. But I won't stand for this nonsense. I always turn on badly behaved martyrs and rip them to shreds as a punishment for siding with the wrong party.
Martin Camden.
martincamden@hotmail.com
2006-08-22 11:07:26 · 5 answers · asked by optimaxim 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Why take sides at all ? No one sees things the exact same way. Its sometimes hard for a "realist" to accept other people's personal truths. In fact there is no such thing as a pure realist. If there were, you wouldnt be so emotional about trying to prove your point. A realist would accept the fact that everyone is different with different perspectives and wouldnt argue in the first place, because "realistically" what would that accomplish? What kind of person rips people up for not seeing things exactly thier way ? I can think of a few other better names but hopefully you get the point.
2006-08-22 11:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gazoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the situation but I would most likely be on the side of the realist. I have been around a lot of people that have the victim mentality and it frustrates me to no end. It seems that the people with the victim mentality always find a way to make EVERY situation about them. I have also noticed that the people with this victim mentality don't like it when something bad happens to someone else...because it takes away from them. The explanations that they give you also seem so unrealistic that I find things that they say to be a lie.
2006-08-23 09:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by fieldworking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think a realist would understand that some people truly are victims or have been victimized in the past.The are not just products of their own faulty perspectives. It may be your faulty perspective. When one has been victimized. that is their reality. Maybe you could not coddle them, but it doesn't hurt to have empathy. With kindness and understanding most victims move on learn to move on. But they do need someone to lean on.
2006-08-26 07:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a personal bias
2006-08-22 14:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by mochi.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither. it's their confrontation.
2006-08-26 09:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋