2006-08-22 10:55:49 · 24 answers · asked by Dan 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hmmm
You save the tricky questions for late at night, don't you?
the answer is...er...
(1) lack of love for self will always get in the way of your personal relationships. I'm certain of this from personal experience - being on both sides of that type of relationship and seeing it in others.
(2) to "fully love" others seems to me like an unattainable state of perfection, like nirvana. I simply don't know anyone who does not have any issues in this area.
So I think yes, you have identified a very genuine problem, but you will never ever ever meet anyone who does not have this problem to some extent, just like we all get tired when we don't sleep.
more to the point: which are you? the imperfectly loved, or the one incapable of perfect love? I suspect you are both, simultaneously. I think all of us are.
2006-08-22 10:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say maybe not fully..but I feel you can have a relationship with someone who may in return make you feel good about yourself and then somewhere down the road you will find that this person has given you great self-esteem and in return you may find that you have not only learned love for yourself but have fallen in love with your significant other! Good luck:)
2006-08-22 11:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by bowl_me_over_with_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You need to at least like yourself a little bit because if you don't you will only want to please the other person. You will 'need' them, not really love them, because if you truly love someone you can be without them. If you need them you are only trying to fill emptiness inside of yourself that only YOU can fill.
Start to love yourself by laughing at little things that you do. Then say things that you like about yourself to yourself. The best way to do this is by having a 'Special Place'. This is a place that in your mind where only you go--totally alone. Touch something in this place and say your self appreciation. This will help to make the connection in your brain. When you are in a bad situation where you feel terrible about yourself remember this and use it. Good luck!
2006-08-22 11:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you can yes but at the same time if you don't like yourself it makes it very difficult for others to love you, especially long term. That would greatly reduce the chances of being in a successful relationship...
2006-08-22 11:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE!!! See this is the problem with relationships such as marriages and etc!!! Everything resides WITHIN!!! If you really and truley appreciate and love yourself, theres is no way you can mistreat anyone else!! However if you hate your own self or disrespect your own self, how in the hell can you honestly respect anyone else!??!? So yeah, and this is the biggest mistake people make when they are dating and or marrying, you must know you self 1st, then you wouldn't waist you or anyone else's time and you will know exactly what you need thats important in sharing your life with someone!
2006-08-22 11:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by The King 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not really. When you love and like yourself you have accepted who are you are, you may want to change certain things but overall you are happy within. Only then you can fully appreciate and love others as you won't have major issues with your self.
2006-08-22 11:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Keira 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, you must love yourself,if you cant give yourself the love and respect you deserve no one else can and you will be giving them selfish and selfdestructive love and insecurities and disrespect by your lack of trust and projecting your insecurities and expectations onto the other person unfairly and read into things that are not there, and it is all because you dont really care at the level they deserve,because you cannot give to someone what you cannot give to yourself,and if you are a christian,if that is why you chose your faithworks name, I am not christian but I know you must love and honor gode and that means you must love and honor yourself or go to hell ,think about it seriously ,forgive yourself and love yourself it may be difficult to do, but you have nothing to lose,sorry if this question is not about you and is about someone else,did not mean to assume
2006-08-22 11:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You must fully love yourself to be able to give that full love to the other. It's the same with all other feelings such as trust and forgiveness.
2006-08-22 10:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by 675 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To love someone else you must first love yourself. It's a hard thing to do, but if you're not secure in yourself, how can you expect them to? The love of someone else can help you achieve self-love though. Love's a virtuous cycle.
2006-08-22 11:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think as you more fully appreciate yourself, you'll more fully appreciate others. But yes, you can love...but you used the word fully, so I responded to that.
2006-08-22 10:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋