I dont want to hang out with my friends anymore cause im so into my husband. They were really not that close anyway. Is this wrong?? Anyone else like this???
2006-08-22 10:34:45 · 38 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they weren't that close...who cares? The same is happening to me. I have always been the type who's friends were more like family. Since I met my fiance, I'm separating from them one-by-one. He's everything I need and we enjoy each other for all kinds of activities. I've kept the ones that mean the most, but the others have just kind of drifted away.
2006-08-22 10:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with this. It is normal that you would want to spend your time with the one you love. You seem to just lose touch with friends at times because you are so happy being with your husband. It is like you are the only two in the world and don't need anyone else. I would be the same way if I was married. My husband would be the anchor in my life.
2006-08-22 10:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will say losing interest in close friends is just enjoying your marriage, but I say it's a little too much closeness.
At first, of course, you're in the honeymoon phase, but life needs balance and going overboard and eliminating friends, even a best girlfriend is a recipe for a lot of marital conflict in my opinion. Actually, a study just came out and said that too much time together isn't all that great for a marriage and couples need to be separate sometimes in order to stay sane and healthy.
So that said, in the beginning it's normal, but long term, gets some friends girl!
2006-08-22 13:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by tolula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your interests are not the same as theirs anymore. Where you guys used to go out to bars or whatever, now you don't want to because you're married. You still need friends, though. Don't just depend on your husband for companionship. Make new friends, maybe other couples you and your husband can both hang out with.
2006-08-22 10:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. You are in a different place in your life. People out grow each other all the time. It is hard to have that balance of friends and family something has to give and in most cases, it is your friends that lose. Your husband is the most important person in your life right now and it should be understood that you have to give him a lot of your time and attention. I have friends that I try to balance my relationship with and they understand that my sweetie comes first. That is just the way it is.
2006-08-22 10:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's natural. Any friends I value are the same way and we have an understanding to wait our turns... lol. Your man is more important than distant friends~ It's healthy to find couple friends together that you both agree on, and if you have lady friends who really care about you then they shouldn't be left too far in your husband's dust as they would be a blessing to both of you, but they should still understand that you are accountable to someone who is a part of you now =) blessss
2006-08-22 10:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend is like this well she used to feel this way i should say...When she first got with her husband she did not want to go anywhere with out him. not too dinner ,not to the movies, not to dance, nothing. she only wanted to be with him. he spoiled her -he did everything for her -from putting the toothpaste on her toothbrush to tying her shoes. doing the laundry everything. well her friends stop asking her to do things cuz her answer was always the same. so she got mad and she lost her friends so if you do what she did you don't have to worry about losing interest in them they will do it for you...however my friend now wants to do things with her friends ( the few she has left) but her husband always give her a hard time about it or he Say's it is OK but the night she is to go out he starts pouting and acting all sad so she feels guilty and stays home so be careful what you ask for...It is good to do things separate you actually look forward to going home and seeing the person you missed all day long..
2006-08-22 11:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to cleave to your husband now, but keep at least a couple of close friends. The newness will wear off and you may find that the ONLY friend you still have is him. This has happened to me.
2006-08-22 10:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wrong u should to spend some time with ur friends
u never know went u r going to need them u might be happy went ur husband but also need to hang out with friend or at least talk to them once in a while
2006-08-22 10:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Little Ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad girl i feel the same .... I only wanna stay home with the baby and the love of my life. I dont miss my social life that much.... only sometimes..
At first my friends were all butt hurt about me being evasive and shutting the phone off...
my true friends understood and nowadays when I miss them and I have a wild hair up my a s s I call them and we got out for old times sakes... and do the things we use to do...
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh LIFE I'm only 32
but to answer your question luv, its OK you're alright
2006-08-22 10:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋