The Over Needy Child?

Question

Many of you know I came inquiring about an over needy baby I sit for. The situation has gotten worse with her mom becoming pregnant again. She has to work now and she and I have talked about Faith and she gave me some pointers. Her daughter still hasn't gotten any less needy. For example, I cannot sit down to feed my son without her child throwing a fit because I am not giving her my full attention. When I feed her, if I don't have that next spoonful ready fast enough, she screams and I mean screams. She comes to my house at 7 am when my son is still asleep and when her mom leaves she starts her whinning and she gets in to a screaming fit and wakes up my son. Her mom has told me don't be afraid to let her cry, but she disrupts my son. If Faith sees my son and sees me giving him attention, she could have been happy 2 seconds before and she gets jealous because it's not her I'm paying full attention to. It's getting ridiculous, but her mom doesn't have time to find a new sitter

she's a cute child, just too needy. More so than I can meet when I have my own son to care for as well.

Answer 1

I agree with Gayle. If this little girl is disrupting your own family to this extent then maybe you have to consider letting her go.
If you've talked to her mother and nothing is working then you have to do something.
Put your own family FIRST!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry, she doesn't seem needy, but more like spoiled. Do you not discipline her because she is not your own? How old is she anyway? If she is old enough to understand commands, tell her what would happen if a bad behavior occurs, (timeout, no food, whatever). And carry it through! It'll take time, she will still cry/scream for a while, but she has to learn. If you can't do all this, then you need to let her mom find a new sitter.

Answer 3

You really need to concentrate on your son and his needs and happiness, it seems that you are a very nice and compassionate person and you are trying to help her, but you may need to sit her down, with NO interuptions from children and again explain to her, that this is not working out. you don't have to place blame, just "this is not working out for my familiy " you might want to suggest that she gets someone to come to her home and watch her child, that will give the little girl the individed attention she is craving and needing. Obviously the little girl has issues, that you can not fix. This woman needs to really focus on her daughter, if heer daughter is jealous of your son, what is she going to do with her new brother/sister ?? she might try to hurt them. So she needs to take charge of this issue. And the doesn't have time to find a sitter, hey I work full time and I found one, it wasn't easy interviewing at night and on weekends but you do what you gotta do, It's life !! deal with it !! Good luck and be strong !!

Answer 4

How old is the child?

Ignore the tantrums and/or place her in time out. Only give her attention when she is behaving. If she's being good, praise her. If she's being bad simply place her in time out and then pretend she doesn't exist no matter how much she screams.

Answer 5

put her in time out. kids hate time out dont let her out til 1 min per age of child. but don't start the time till the crying starts and let her know that.

Believe me at that age they don't like standing there she will get the hit.

Your bigger, your the boss, you make the rules, so make them!

Answer 6

Id tell her to find another sitter

Answer 7

I have included a link to help with suggestions..

Answer 8

get games that a child can play with on their own.

Answer 9

I'd tell her to make time and find one. Your family has to come first.

Answer 10

I agree your child has to be your first priority.