I'm 25 and he's 45..He loves me so much and I love him too..its just that the age thing doesnt get out of my head and my family doesnt help either, they keep putting doubts in my head that I'll regret it ect...what do u think?
2006-08-22 10:09:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
age is just a number my husband is older then me as well im 26 and he is 39 and we have been married for 4 yrs and i have never been happier so dont worry about
2006-08-22 10:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by teye_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and my husband is 41. Do not worry about it. As long as you two love each other and are 100 % commited eventually everyone will stop being so negative. When your family brings up your age differnce point out couples in your friend or family circles that are having issues. You can show them that being the same age does not guarantee a good or happy relationship and having an age difference does not guarantee a bad one. Also, keep a sense of humor with your critics. My husband and I frequently joke about our age differnce in front of family and friends. It shows them how ok we are with it and makes them feel better about it too. You'll eventually wear them down, just don't give in and let it ruin a lovely marriage.
2006-08-22 18:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by ND Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that this happens. It's a matter of math...your 25 he's 45....when your 35 he'll be 55....45 he'll be 65...etc...
At 35 he'll be wanting to slow down in life. He'll be wanting to look at retiring...you'll be wanting children.....when you're 50 he'll be 70. Is that how you want to spend the remaining 1/3 of your life...taking care of a a very old man?
Again it's unfortunate to find a mate with such an age difference. But I think you need to seek out someone of your own age bracket. A good rule of thumb is 10 year up and five years down. It's better to date the older man since the younger man will not be ready to settle down yet.
One thing men start to decline in sexual performance around age 50. That's another factor you must consider. When you hit 35 your need for physical sexual contact will be great. Will your 55 year old partner be able to keep up with your drive or will it chase you out to find another.
Good Luck
2006-08-22 18:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life. Was your husband as young as you when you married him...did he just age more quickly than you? I think you are more than a little late about these concerns. And family putting doubts in your head...you don't sound like a particularly loyal wife. Shame on you! Set him free immediately so he can find someone who appreciates him totally, and you can bet there are plenty waiting in the wings to grab him. Probably a lot younger than you are.
2006-08-22 17:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be realistic about your future. If you want to have family and kids - make sure he's on the same page with you. A lot of older guys just don't want to have (more) kids, whereas younger women are looking to start a family. I don't know if you're even planning to have kids - or just want to have fun. Either way, age by itself doesn't matter, it only matters that both of you are getting what you want out of a relationship.
2006-08-22 18:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop listening to what your family thinks and say this is your marriage you know better than anyone if you really want things to work out your both adults so the age shouldn't be a big problem you knew the difference in age before you got married so why question it now be happy and enjoy your life with your hubby
2006-08-22 17:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family to lay off the age thing, put it to rest, and you have to mean it. Only you can put it out of your head. If you are both happy, that is all that counts, do not let any one get between that. sometimes people is just jealous.
2006-08-22 17:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family to get a life or at least get a grip! My great grandmother remarried a man 20 years her junior. They were very much in love, It doesn't matter age wise. It obviously didn't matter to you when you married him. If you are having doubts then voice those doubts to him. Counseling should help.
Ignore family...you aren't living with them.
2006-08-22 17:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love really doesnt have an age. I think that you have to just love and let him love you back. I think that you are going to back off from your family because they are causing problems
2006-08-22 17:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by w_gray3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age shouldn't matter if you love each other. I'm with a 42 yr old and I'm 23 so I think you should ignore everyone who has nothing good to say to you. Take Care.
2006-08-22 17:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by pinkberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋