if you had a 13year old girl and she had a baby what would you do?

Question

don't be mean just opions

Answer 1

Support her, she is my daughter.

Answer 2

If she were already pregnant,There isnt much that i could really do.I am not a mother of a 13 year old girl,but i was a teenager not so long ago.I would sit her down and let her know i was there for her reguardless.I would also educate her on her options.I would discuss with her which option she would rather do and i would support her either way.I am not her,and i may not agree with what she chooses but i would definately stand by her because if not,she is going to run somewhere else for support and more than likely end up with another by the time she is 15.If she chose to raise it i would support her and help her anyway i could so that she could finish getting her education.In that case,she could do what is best for her and her child instead of standing behind a counter at McDonalds.I have nothing against those people,and those who work there work really hard but,I also know that it isnt the best way to support a child and i would advise her to get a better job and maybe someday a career so that she can have the life and so can the baby that she needs and deserves.Everyone makes mistakes,and reguardless of whether you are 13 or 21 it still happens.No one can judge even if its their own daughter,sure everyone wants the best for their children but sometimes mistakes happen.Remember,they are responsible for the babys life,you cant choose for them,they have to choose what they believe is best for their children.You can help,but you cant take over her life.

Answer 3

just love both of them.
help the girl as much as you can.
my daughter got pregnant at 15. i thought abortion first, but if we had done this not only would it have been murder, but we wouldnt have our beautiful baby girl!!!
she is 6 now.
she has brought nothing but joy to us.!!!
young mothers can be just as good of mothers.
in the old days(like way back..little house on the prarie time and before) women got married after mensturation!! my own mom was 14 when she married.
she was born in 1932.
she had my brother at 15.
moms in heaven now. got alsheimers.
but anyway, jsut watch them together. be sure she is mature enough to handle the baby. make sure that she can finish scholl and also have time with friends without the baby.
she needs to still have fun and grow up. dont punish her.
but now , get her on the pill or shot. now!!!!!(if baby is here).
pray alot. all will work out.
thsi would be normal many years ago.
if you are the grandma, the child can call u nana.
thats what my two grands call me.
iam only 40 now. i look nothing like a gma. iam still too cute..ha ha .
anyway, best of luck.
do the best you all can.
if adoption is an issue, make it open so u can see the baby. try to keep in the family!!!!!

Answer 4

WOW good question! First I would probably CRY. and do alot of it at that! Then I would like totally want to know who the father was! If I didnt know until later- the best bet would be to put the baby up for adoption - its the only fair chance the baby and the 13 year old baby has! Or maybe possibly adopt and care for my grand child myself! Blood is blood! THEN Id take her to get the birth control shot so I dont have to worry for the next 5 years!

Answer 5

1) Help her with her baby 2) Keep her away from boys for awhile 3) Find out who the father is 4) Take care of the baby ( because at 13 u really can't take care of urself and a baby ) 5) Find out y she was sleeping with some guy 6) Get the fathers parents involved 7) Get her on the pill as soon as possible 8) Figure out how I am going to help with the baby ......... stuff like that

Answer 6

Well obviously if I was a parent that had a 13 yr old daughter who had a baby, I wouldnt have done my job as a parent. These days, children are more and more interested in what they DON'T get told by their parents so they experiment. I think all parents should suck it up and talk to their children about sex, drugs, etc... Most parents seem to think that if they don't talk about it, it won't happen and their children will automatically KNOW what NOT to do in their childhood/adolescence. I would sit down with my child and we would do a pro/con chart to see which one would benefit her and the baby. And of course, I would DEFINITELY make sure the baby daddy knows.

Answer 7

I would not be very happy with the situation but I would support my daughter. I would see that she keeps the baby becasue a lifetime without your own flesh and blood will haunt you. I would adopt if needed. I wouldnt want her to go through that later on not having her child or wondering about her child and having regrets giving it up. ABORTION IS " OUT OF the question". And--After her child is 5 ys old and going to all day kindergarten she would be 18 and could still go to college and still get her diploma before hand, I would help her do that. I would see if the "father" is underage as well and be supportive to him if he cared, but if the father was over 18 and not supportive or helpful I would get him for statuatory rape. I may do that anyways, but I would be there for my daughter no matter what. I would still help her have her dreams of graduating high school and going to college. We woulld make it work. no mom should be alone or looked at as a "bad person" or one of not having any future becasue they have a baby. I hope that all parents could be supportive for their children in the same circumstances....And so will God. Take it one day a time. Thanks for asking that question , makes us think :)

Answer 8

I would first ask myself what I did wrong to make her look elsewhere besides her parents for love and attention.
I would then take her to the doctors and make sure she is physically ok. And I would have the doctor talk to her about her options. She is more likely to listen to a doctor than you since the communication lines probably aren't very open in the first place between mother and daughter. Lastly, no matter what is decided (keeping baby, aborting, or adoption) be sure to discuss with her birthcontrol options after and self esteem. Or have her talk to a professional about self esteem and self worth so that this does not repeat itself.

Answer 9

Depends on your own personality. Are you able to handle another baby in the house? I would make the 13 yr be the mom. She will be responsible for the main childcare. As grandma I would help, free shelter and food, etc. Babysit so mom could go to school and get homework done. I would help with feedings etc, but mom has to be the mom. Also, help get child support from dad. If consentually sex I wouldn't press charges but he better step up and be a dad. If he is an adult then press charges.

Answer 10

Being pregnant at 13 is awful for a child. They are probably scared and ashamed. As parents it is our job to see that our children are protected at all times but unfortunately we can't be there 100% of the time and mistakes happen.

I would probably be a little disappointed that sh had even had sex at that age, let alone become pregnant but I would stand by her 100% and talk her through her options. At the end of the day, although only a child herself she was old enough to have sex so she is old enough to decide her fate also.
Regardless of her decision I would stand by her, even if that meant me giving up my life for her child so she can go back to school and try to gain a future for her child. I would teach her everything I learned to become a parent and know that with guidance she will endevour to become sucessful in everything she does............. She is my daughter and I will be proud of her regardless!!

Answer 11

I would give the baby up for adoption.
She's a baby herself and "teaching her a lesson" by making her raise the child is very selfish for the child's sake. Give the baby an intact and normal home (as close as possible to this) and just get the 13 year old into counciling.