When we come face to face, do I smile or slap her silly?

Question

Here's the situation......My husband works 2nd shift, they hired a new person and she's a woman..She's only the 3rd or 4th woman that works there and the rest are older ladies.....Anyway, she started flirting with my husband and made it pretty clear that she would like to fool around with him, he says that he rejected her advances and told her that he was married and that he loved his wife and family, but she said she didn't care. It ever resorted to her crabbing his a**. As far as I know everyone that works there knows about it and they all thought it was funny, but to me it's not funny. I love my husband and I trust him. My question is the company has a picnic scheduled shortly and I know she will be there. I have never met her and am not looking foward to it. I don't know what kind of a mood I will be in that day and I don't want to get out of hand. My husband wants me to smile and act like nothing ever happened, but I don't think he would if this happened to him, what do I do?

Answer 1

smile but not a friendly smile, smile like a i know what ou did and i should kick ur but but i'm to good of a person too do that smile

Answer 2

If I was you I would just go an be the beautiful person you are an let her know what it's like to have a good relationship that she would never have an that she is not even a question in your relationship an she will see how much your husband loves you an back off she is one of them people that goes with the saying everyone wants what they can't have so i think it's just she can mess with him because she knows he wont respond an so that makes it worth the temtation but once she know how things are with you an hi an how happy she is she should back off an if she doesn't not by then the she should belong to you an do as you will

Answer 3

First of all, having trust in your husband is a very good thing. I think what I would do if I was in your situation is go to the picnic. You know that eventually you will be introduced to her. Or if not, make it your business to be introduced to her. Smile and introduce yourself as Mrs. So-and-So and as the wife of Mr. So-and-So. Let her know that you are aware of her actions and that you don't appreciate her making advances at your husband. Then calmly inform her that if dosen't back off your going to take matters into your own hands. Then, walk away. If she makes another advance at your husband, then she deserves to get the hell beat out of her, because she is aware that he has a wife and the words came out of your mouth and directly to her. Not only that, but you were willing to address her woman to woman, so if she wants to act like a scant whore, I say treat her like a scant whore. Good luck!

One more thing, don't listen to the people who are saying that your husband is hiding something from you because he won't report her. You trust your husband for a reason. If he was trying to hide something from you, then why would he tell you in the first place? Especially the situation going as far as her grabbing him Most men, I'm not saying all, feel kind of embarrassed to go and tell their boss that they're getting sexually harrassed by a woman. Especially if their boss is a man as well. He probably thinks that he'll be the laughing stock of the office.

Answer 4

Good heavens no...dont' act as if nothing has happened....Have fun with this! When introduced, tell her you have heard sooooo much about her, as in "Oh, this is the one!" and smile kindly towards her. Do NOT hang on your husband as if you own him, let him do his thing. IF she shows abnormal interest in him in front of you, tell her, "I certainly understand why you are so interested...he is a dream to live with...the absolute best...where else could you find a man you can trust???" and smile. Do nothing that indicates you are annoyed with her. She is doing no damage, isn't even irritating you (but she is telling you loud and clear that your husband is trustworthy). And in fact, if she does anything out of line, Thank her for helping your husband prove just how loyal he is! After all, if he won't play with you, who would he play with? The back hand slap is far more effective than confrontation that makes you look like a jealous biotch. don't play into her hands...turn it around on her...Yes, I would have a ball with this...and you can to. You will be laughing for weeks, and think of the stories you will have to tell your friends...just make sure you come across as a dream wife who has NO worries about her husband. Go to it. My way is far more evil than out and out confrontation.

Answer 5

Approach friendly and play it by ear and see what happens - I think the best thing to do is not act irrationally by just walking up to the woman and slapping her. Let her do something stupid first - if she is like you are portraying her - she will - and then it will be a good time to pounce. No one - including your husband - would blame you for your actions. If she is not as bad as you might think - she may approach you and offer her most sincere apologies and she was acting way out of hand. Either way - you save face and your plate is clean. Look at this as an oportunity for a win win here - and don't let your anger get the better of you.

Answer 6

If you cause a scene your husband will have to deal with it at work. I would show her your security w/ your marriage. However, any chance I got (I must admit), I would make sure she witnessed just how wonderful my marriage was. I know it sounds a little shady but she is being a bit shady herself. Perhaps when she sees for herself that your husband is happy with you she will back off. If all that fails ....next year at the picnic....slap her silly...LOL

P.S. your hubby may want to drop her a hint that there are laws against sexual harrassment in the workplace. Those laws apply to both sexes. Maybe a subtle threat would get her attention.

Answer 7

Kill her with kindness. I would for sure say something but you don't want to be the jealous b*tch. Just say "so I hear you like my husbands as*" And smile then watch her fumble over her words. Once she realizes that you're not afraid of confrontation she will stop the flirting. She is clearly aggressive and used to people being passive with her. Stick up for your man but do it calmly. Don't make a big scene especially at a company picnic.

Answer 8

As much as you would like to smile and then slap her face, you would embarrass your husband. He does not want this to happen in front of his co-workers. You need to be the lady here. If you are forced to face this slut just smile and nod your head. You do not need to lie and say that you are happy to meet her or anything else. A smile is enough to be polite and show you are not interested in getting to know her at the same time.

Answer 9

I say smile so kindly. Show her just how much in love the both of you are. Chances are you husband will be more affectionate just to make sure you are feeling OK. Use that to your advantage. Make sure when he is right by you to always make contact, hold hands, arm around him, when he goes to walk away always say I Love You and a kiss. This will bother her more than anything.
Good Luck

Answer 10

Why doesn't he put a stop to this before the picnic? I'd be angry at him for not letting her (or his boss) know that her behavior wasn't going to keep happening. Go to the picnic, smile and let everyone see that You are his wife and a lady.

Answer 11

I'm a guy and I would say to not slap her. Your husband will end up catching a lot of heat at work for as long as he works there. You're best bet would be to just mention to her that you've went to her boss and let the facts be known if you don't go to her boss. Just remind her that she can be fired for her *** grabbing and screwing with married men.