The result of my last question "My dad is cheating on my mom! Im too young to know what to do!"?

Question

if u have not read my last question, plz read it ... question is: My Dad is Cheating on My Mom! Too young to know what to do. HELP!!??.

i have just came out of a 4 hour sit down with me, my mom and my dad. I took some of ur advice and confronted my dad. Result, 3 hours of screaming and crying and 1 hour of silence. He asked us what we want and we told him... We need him at home.. and then after 10min of almost agreeing with eachother, my mom snaps again (cant blame her) and he threatens to leave the house now! But me and my mom prevent him from leaving by taking his Keys and Wallet...

*by the way my dad is handicaped... he has a broken leg that cant fixed. he walks with a cane.

I seriously have no idea what to do now... my mom is crying her eyes off... i somewhat feel responsible NOT the fact that they're fighting, but because im the eldest, and the only one who has my moms back but still not able to do anythin... what do i do! HELP!!

Answer 1

Your Father needs to take responsibilty with the pain he has caused. Walking out is not a solution. Your Mother has every right to be upset and she has the right to snap. As for you, you can't fix this. Can you talk with your Father alone? Tell him how you feel? This is not your responsibility. You may be wanting say or do the one thing that will make it stop but it is not going to work that way. You have every right to be upset too, don't forget that. The pain has to take its course and hopefully things will be ok in the end.

Big hugs to you and your family.

Answer 2

Wow, umm I think you should confront your dad alone , and tell him how much he means to you!! Be like "Dad you make a big impact in my life, and the fact that you cheated on mom has hurt me soo much already!! I need you in my life and if you walk out of it then it will be screwed up , and I don't want that!!! And I hope that you don't want that either!!" Tell him how much you love him too!

Answer 3

You mom and dad need to see a marriage counselor. These people went to school for years to learn EXACTLY how to help people like you and your mom and your dad. Dad may be cheating as a way to ignore his handicap. Good luck!!

Answer 4

The sad part is they have gotten you involved. You, need to continue to focus on school, and loving both of your parents. try not to side with either of them, it could sway the decision making of either one of them. Even if your dad leaves, it dosent mean that he will not be there for you financially. Since you have gotten involved I highly reccommend that you try and shelter your yougner siblings from any of the arguments etc. You don't want them to have the same worries. Lastly if you need to vent or discuss it try talking to a counsler at school.

Keep focusing on your education!

Answer 5

There really isn't anything that you can do except to continue to be there for your mom. Unfortunetly, this is something that your mom and dad will have to work out for themselves.