Guys Only: Would you have a relationship with a woman that has a child?

Question

If no, why not?

Answer 1

Personally I am single and I love children. When I was growing up both of my parents had to work and then my mother had 2 more babies. The older children had to help out and we all had to help take care of them, change them, feed them etc. Because of this experience two of my sisters never wanted children, but because of this experience I knew that I did! I knew that I could handle babies, and later kids, and I felt comfortable around them.

Some male mammals don't like having to raise another male’s child. With lions a male gathers a harem and breeds with it. He then defends that group and prevents any other male from intruding. If another male deposes that male then the new male’s first action is to kill all the previous male's cubs, which brings the lionesses into heat so he can breed with them. This doesn't make the lion bad or good; it is in his genes and his instinct.

Very few creatures can rise above their genes and their instincts. Man is the best at it. Some people do it better than others, and some people only do it in a few areas. The male’s genes tell him to not raise someone else’s child; that doesn’t give his genes a chance to multiply. That is human instinct and we cannot escape it.

Men have differing attitudes about children. Young men are, mostly, a victim of their genes; they want to breed and do it often. This is the best way to get their genes out into the world. It may not sound nice, but biology doesn’t care about nice all it cares about is reproduction. This explains why some men, especially the immature ones, just want the one night stands. Other men just don’t like children (these men are usually selfish ones that just want to party and breed frequently).

More mature men could rise above their instincts and settle down with one woman (to help this women are able to breed at almost any time, and men want to do it as often as possible). It is in the woman’s genes to want to breed and raise a child. To do this they need a stable environment and a spouse to help care for her and the child (or children). Again this is just the biology of the situation—the raw animal instincts, which we cannot escape, but some are able to rise above them (however, these instincts are always lying in wait and they are ready to spring up at any time).

The reasons why men don’t want to date a woman with children, from another man, are varied. Some don’t want to raise a child, any child. Some don’t want to raise another man’s children. And there are some, a very few, don’t mind doing that. The basic reasons to not want to date you and your family lie in the male’s instincts and are hard to overcome.

Also single women raising a family don’t have a lot of time to date. Their family will get into the way and that can cool off many men.

You need to find a man who is willing to rise above his instincts and agreeable to have children, even if they are not his own. Usually this means a more mature man and often someone who seems too normal and laid back. Most women are attracted to dangerous, young, attractive, or rich men. Again the reasons start with the woman’s biology. Dangerous men are good at defending the family (but, they may not be so good at raising it or staying with it.). Young men are vigorous and able to make many children and fight with many rivals (even though they may be to immature to make a good father). Attractive men usually breed attractive children, which is important for the children to attract future mates (although some men think too much of themselves, all the women are just dieing to throw themselves at him, and they would be a fool to limit their chance to breed with just one woman). Rich men are able to provide all the needs for a family, and they can use their money to protect the family (although some can just want to use their money to party with).

So you need to find the right man, someone who is willing to be with you and your family. In finding this man you need to rise above your own instincts and maybe downgrade your values a little. The rich, young, attractive, and dangerous men are not as attracted to you. Again this is all due to the genes, the biology of the sexes, or the instincts of the people involved. It is up to you to rise above these instincts and to find a man that is willing to rise above them as well.

American Pride just doesn't see the biology of the situation. Men are able to breed quickly and often, usually at the drop of a hat. Their biology gears them to spread their genes as widely as possible. Often, this means that the woman has to keep herself attractive to her mate. Most women are more than willing to do this (just look at your bills for makeup and hair salons and you will see what I mean). Again it is all in the instincts (women instinctually know that males have to be attracted and first glances can mean a lot). Men can get hot and desire sex by just seeing a pretty woman. Women need more they need the relationship. They need to know that the man can make a good companion, and therefore a good person to raise a family with. Even if you don't plan to have any more children, even if you are unable to have any more children the instincts are still there and they have to be overcome.

Joey, abcdefghijkl..., itsalllg, answer_man are just being honest. Their comments are from their genes and they are listening to them. It may sound cruel, but it is what every man feels, however it doesn't mean what every man feels--and that is shown in your positive responses. These people are examples of what you have to overcome.

Good luck in your search.

Answer 2

Yes, why not, I would like to think that a woman would like a relationship with a guy with a child.
However I think that one needs to make sure that they are mature enough to have a relationship with someone with a child as if anything goes wrong then there is more than one person that is going to get hurt

Answer 3

I would more lean towards no on that question. I've been in a relationship with a woman with a child before, and what happened is that the woman took the whole thing *a lot* more seriously than me and pretty much wanted me to end up playing daddy, which is really something that I didn't really want to do at the time.

So if the woman doesn't take it really seriously, then I would say yes, if not, then I would say no.

Answer 4

Absolutely, as long as she would have a relationship with a man who has a child, since I have a 10 year old daughter.

Answer 5

why not ...

love comes in all shapes and sizes ....

I guess I'd be concerned for the child...but that's Mom's job before it ever becomes mine...what i mean is the child would have to accept me before it ever got "serious",
but a relationship could mean close friends also .....and there's no child restriction on that ... so YES I WOULD

Answer 6

Yes

Answer 7

Yes

Answer 8

I know I'm not a guy. But when I met my husband 27 years ago I was a single parent with a 4 month old child.

After dating for a year we married and have been married every since.

Answer 9

Absolutely. Me and another guy at work had this conversation last week. The one girl in our office was suprised by the fact that I would date a mommy before I'd date a smoker. Hands down.

Answer 10

i grow to be on the different edge of that yet in line with probability i'm able to help. You ahve to ask your self some questions. Do you adore him? Does he cope with you suited? have you ever met the youngsters? do you like greater babies and characteristic you asked him if he needs greater? have you ever had the getting severe with a determine communicate yet? the main important impediment is the youngsters. You adult adult males would desire to speak and see the place you like the courting to bypass yet interior the tip it is your determination no longer your households. they might desire to settle to your determination and welcome him if that's what you like. His ex would attempt to reason matters yet do no longer enable her! If she is the immature type then she will see you as a danger and act infantile with regard to the full element. babies complicate issues yet they are able to additionally help build your courting. once you start up your existence with a single never married guy or woman then you certainly've each and all of the time interior the international for you yet with babies they're only as substantial via fact the guy. Like I reported it is your determination yet while he's who you like choose for it! besides you're able to locate that he's greater stable and greater mature than somebody your age.

Answer 11

sure what would a child have to do with the mom other than it`s a package deal i still visit some of my ex`s just because i got close to thier kids 2 even call me dad and i`m fine with that i was thier for them most of thier life and that wont change just because me and thier mom decided we were not right for each other (thier dad doesn`t want to be part of thier life)