Housemate driving me crazy....?

Question

I'm a twenty year old college student and for the past half an year, I've been living with a female housemate (not my girlfriend). This woman is incredibly bossy, manipulative, loud and abrasive. She's rude to my friends and orders me about. she also happens to want everything to be just the way she wants it; from the volume on the TV to the furniture to when I should clean my room! Whenever I dress up and go out at night, she demands to know where I'm going and then resorts to crude innunedo when I get evasive.

I'm gentle by nature (some would say passive) and like getting along with people. The few times I have confronted, she would play dumb, pretend to not understand what I was saying and would revert to the exact same thing the next day. Strange thing is: another friend of hers moved in recently and after getting along well with her for a while, she noticed how her friend was treating me and started doing the same.

The rent and place are incredibly good and I'll only need t

to be here a few more months. How do I do that and remain sane at the same time?

Em, I wish I could kick the darling out but, unfortunately, the lease is in her name. :(

Answer 1

If you only have a few more months to stick it out then try to. Avoid her when possible. Ignore her when necessary.

Answer 2

Is the lease in your name? It's important because if it is, then you have all the cards in your hand, but if you don't and it's in both of your names, you had better take care to document EVERYTHING, from your rent payments (use checks, they are easiest to trace), your utility payments, again use checks, and when it comes time for you to move out, go to the management and make them aware you are moving out and insist someone come and inspect the apartment before you leave.

I would hate to think that you end up on Judge Judy and she just walks all over you there like she has done here.

I have had a couple roommates over the years, and decided that I can't live with anyone. I find it hard to live with my own daughter, because she isn't as neat as I am. Ok, I'm not THAT neat, but I like the house picked up and organized, and I'm so compulsive about it, I line up the canned food according to what's inside, corn, peas, green beans, etc., and then by size...and they have to be on the shelf in order, and I'm even worse about the count. If I have an uneven amount when I go to the store, I will buy enough to even it out again, AND what I need for the evening meal.

I can't say that she (your roommate) is like that, not based on what you've written, but they call it OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and now, I don't think I'm OCD, nothing is wrong with me mentally, but based on the definition of the disorder, and how completely anal I am about everything, I fit it.

My advice to you though, keep a record of EVERYTHING - it's your only defense, should things crop up when it comes time for you to move out.

**IF the lease is in your name, stand on your own two legs and tell her to GET OUT** (after you find a suitable roomate to take her place).

-Em

Answer 3

Ignore her and do what you like. Such as when she says 'go to east, and you wish to go to west', just pretend you didn't hear her and go to west. I hope this will solve your problem. Good luck.