Please be specific in your answers. I know that you can love a dog but you aren't in love with them...that's not the kind of answer i'm looking for...... i want scenarios with friends, boyfriends, etc.....
2006-08-22 09:12:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely!
When you say "I love you"... to somebody, that usually means you like something about them that really appeals to you. This can be a character trait about them, or something physical about them, or anything like that.
When you say, "i'm in love with you"... what you really mean is that you have a soulmate connection with them ... a "Meeting of minds" where you both feel like your minds are one... and that kinds of feeling is a very special one filled with happiness and warmth ... and it is unconditional too. You can be in the same room together, sitting at the opposite ends of the room and feel the connection together, even though your sitting apart from each other.
2006-08-22 09:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is a huge difference, being in love with someone means they feel the same about you. If only one person loves another in a relationship it's doomed and lots of feelings get hurt. Trust me, I've been on both sides of this and neither one is good. When 2 people are truly in love with each other they will stop at nothing and work to be together in some way or another. Nothing can stand between them and they'll both encourage the other to grow and experience life. They both know that the other will be there for them no matter what happens. It's messed up when you love someone that doesn't love you and they use that line though..I've had it done to me before "I love you but I'm not in love with you" is such a copout. I wish when someone ended things they were just honest and said,"listen, I really don't want to be with you, I thought I did but now I realize I don't. I'm sorry to do this to you but its what I think is the best choice." none of that it's not you it's me bullcrap. Wow, this turned into a bit of a rant..sorry, Guess I'm a little bitter over some stuff.
2006-08-22 16:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I totally believe that there is a HUGE difference. I love my family but I'm not IN love with them.... that'd be weird and gross. I both love my boyfriend and am IN love with him. When you're in truly in love with someone, you will know the difference. I think being in love is only reserved for a soulmate and no one else. You may love your boyfriend/girlfriend, but are you in love with them too? You can love a lot of different people in your life but I believe you can only be in love with that one special person. I think that a lot of people in relationships confuse the two. You can love the person all you want, and that's great, but it can only go so far. You kind of just answered your own question with the whole dog thing. I love my car but I'm not IN love with it. I love my guy friends but I'm not in love with any of them. See the difference? It's really just a difference in emotion and way of thinking really. It's hard to put into an explanation. Also, I don't believe you can be in love with 2 people at one time.
2006-08-22 16:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I love my ex-boyfriend very much and broke up with him anyway because us together was not a good thing for him. I was "in love" with him because he is a warm, helpful, humorous, and kind person. And I need someone like him in my life. The sex was phenomenal. But since I could see that in the long-run this was going to be a bad relationship for him I had to let him go. So I'm not in love with him because I could see a problem coming along someday. But I still love and appreciate him for what he is. If I didn't 'love him I would have kept him around until things went bad.
"Loving him" is about him. Being "in love" is just as much about me (has a selfish element).
2006-08-22 16:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by connie_mspt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I love my ex boyfriend because we have been friends for a long time and we dated for a while and during those periods of time we got to know eachother really well. We can even read eachothers minds sometimes! But we're not IN love anymore, the sparks just arent there, we arent into eachother like that n e more, I can date other guys n he can date other women. When we were in love, that was impossible even when the other guy was hotter n totally into me I didnt care because I was in love with my ex but now, Im not so I could date who ever I feel like.
2006-08-22 16:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think there is a difference. In my book, being in love w/ someone is like one level above just loving them. It means your head over heels for that person and there's nobody else who might sway your interest in that person.
Now, in my opinion; it would be nice if all romantic relationships involved both partners being 'in love' with each other. However, I firmly believe this does not happen due to many various reasons. Maybe a person marries someone they love because they have a lot of money, they're funny, would be a good provider; or in some cases, just because they're afraid of growing old by themselves. Maybe they settle for the person they are with just because loving that person is enough.
Personally, my wife told me before she married me that she wasn't sure if she was in love with me, or just loved me.. ..made me think, but didn't change my mind about still wanting to marry her. At least, she was honest. That was over 10 years ago and things are still pretty good between us. Maybe she 'settled for me,' but in the end, she never seemed unhappy. Maybe that's all that counts.
2006-08-22 22:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by dwitejones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "in love" is a biological way of getting people to mate. The feelings are chemical and serve to bring people together in the beginning. Then after a relationship is established the other love develops (hopefully) to sustain the relationship through difficult times. The feeling of being in love can apply to lovers and children. It still works the same, when your child is born you feel this euphoric bond (hopefully) that helps you to create a relationship with the child that will drive you to do what you can for its survival.
Hope I answered your question.
2006-08-22 16:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course theirs a different. Just loving someone is like you get to know a guy and ya become real coo and he like blows your mind he's seems like everything you been waiting or looking for. So ya it off real nice and after about 2 months strong you see that when he calls your body still ignites as if ya had only been dating for 5 days.Thats love.
Now being in love is like its been about 6 months and you can fight with this boy every other day. But ya have a love so strong it really doesnt matter you know. Because at the end of the day as mad as you are at him. You still can't picture yourself being without him. Now you know you in love kid.
...Well or what me and mine like to call TEENAGE LOVE THE BEST LOVE OUT THERE.
2006-08-22 16:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by lovely_ms_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally. There is a big difference. Being in love, having total adoration for the other person gets you thru alot more hard times than just simply loving them. Because once you are no longer in love-that's all she wrote. Being in love and staying in love, now that is the " secret " we wish we all could have.
2006-08-22 16:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by educated guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The differnce between love and bing in love is this.....when you love someone ie: a friend you want no harm to come to them and wish them all the happiness in the world. When you are in love with someone ie: a boyfriend, you want them to be happy with you
2006-08-22 17:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋