Are you friends with anyone that brings you down?
2006-08-22 09:05:06 · 13 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I do, sometimes we all dance around in a circle and bring eachother down together. Sometimes, we become like a helicopter, spinning around and around feeding off our positive energies when we're having a good day, spinning up higher and higher. Life has so many ups and downs, and It's good to have friends to keep you level
2006-08-24 04:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 16⤋
Sometimes you may have a friend that may have certain characteristics that are annoying at times. But if you care enough
for them you will bring them up on it ,and if whatever it is that brings you down in the friendship is not addressed they may be unaware
. True friends should be able to communicate. I don't think holding hands makes a bit of difference, in fact If I had someone saying that I brought them down I wouldn"t even want them to hold my hand if they felt that way , Get honest Or just find a friend that doesn;t as you say bring you down thats not a hard thing to do . Honesty and friendship go together
2006-08-22 09:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by .................................... 4 · 10⤊ 10⤋
Unlike some, I took your opening question to be a metaphor for your second, which is the real question...
Sadly, yes, I've a few friends who can drag me down when I'm around them. I detest callous terminology like "emotional vampires" and such but I can well understand why most people eschew the company of downbeat people. When they're really down and you feel like you're the one who has to pick them up off the canvas all the time, it can seem like hard work -- and it is.
But you know what? That's what friends are for, I think. We all need picking up sometimes. Sure, some seem to need it a hell of a lot more than others but a true friend doesn't turn his/her back on a friend in need. Maybe it's just me but I find I feel better when I serve as a shoulder to cry on and make use of my communication skills and innate compassion to actually help someone I care about. It's not so terribly difficult to listen, provide advice, counsel and support to another being, is it?
The trick to keeping yourself afloat and not risk getting dragged down with him/her is to try to take the relationship in small, measured doses. We can all overextend ourselves and take on too much emotional baggage in our relationships. So self-discipline and self-preservation play a significant role in dealing with the "Debbie Downers" of this world. Strike the proper balance and you can help them without hurting yourself. Anyway, I'm plenty strong and resilient enough to shoulder the load.
So yeah, I've several friends that meet your description... and they remain my friends. I'll neither turn my back on them nor give up on them. They are my friends and I want to help them all I possibly can... I wouldn't have it any other way.
2006-08-23 23:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by MacSteed 7 · 22⤊ 10⤋
Some people don't have their days, what can you say? I keep my friends because maybe it's not their best day and they need some time to relax. I wish I held hands, I never held hands with the opposite sex, I never really had an official girlfriend.
2006-08-22 12:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 10⤊ 10⤋
Only one. It is an improvement from earlier times. I eliminated most of the deadwood from my life many years ago. This person is very needy, a bit clingy (which I find claustrophobic), and requires more of my attention than I sometimes want to give. I also sense it would be devastating to him if I withdrew my support...so I persist. I share many common interests with a number of people...and they often inspire me and prod me to new heights...a lot of "give and take"...much more balanced.
2006-08-22 17:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 10⤊ 10⤋
we will only learn something when people brings us down, when think back, we should really hold their hands and say "thank you".
2006-08-23 21:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tan D 7 · 10⤊ 10⤋
I forgiven them most of the time and allow them to change their ways. However, old habits (characteristics) die hard. For those whom I would treat them as enermy, that's when my tolerance limit has been reached, No more Mr Nice Guy.
2006-08-22 19:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by p 4 · 10⤊ 10⤋
no. I hold hands with people that hold me up.
2006-08-23 04:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by sexychik1977 6 · 10⤊ 10⤋
Yes, unfortunately my best friend has a habit of raining on my parade. But she's my girl and I love her to death. Here and there she has really good advice. Now and there she's a good shoulder to cry on. I just look forward to those moments.
2006-08-23 02:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 10⤊ 10⤋
I used to. Then I figured out that I don't need nor want people like that in my life and I got rid of them.
2006-08-22 09:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 10⤊ 10⤋