For those of you that got married and then divorced... ...?

Question

What made you get divorced? Did the person change after marriage? If so what happened? and could it have been prevented?

Answer 1

My ex had huge potential, and then blew it all off smoking pot. It definitly could've been prevented. By him by not smoking and me by not falling in love with potential.

Answer 2

I worked too hard for long hours 7 days a week for nearly 1 year, I didn't realise that while I was providing a good home with luxuries that I forgot about the romantic side of the marriage, she had an affair after 14months into our marriage but, I was sure I could make it work for my children's sake. I couldn't & some times became frustratedly violent, having a tantrum by punching walls, then having affairs myself. Yes it could have been prevented but we were both fighting for a different cause, we got divorced over 13 years ago, after 10 years & it was the best thing I ever done for my kids, not letting them see the man they hardley saw who was thier dad, crackin the shits over being treated as a joke, that they did not understand.

Answer 3

My spouse being unfaithful on numerous occasions caused the break down of the marriage...along with alcohol...and abuse that I indured for 10 long years.

Being brought up with a religious back ground believing UNTIL DEATH DO US PART...one day I snapped and realized if I didn't leave this jerk the vows would become literal...

I left him....and took my 2 children and flew from Woomera, S. Australia and took refuge in N. California near my parents! I've not regretted or looked back since.

Since then...he's been married now 5 x...hmmm you think maybe something is wrong in his brain???? i've known all 5 women...it's just a matter of time b4 #5 becomes fall to his abusive hands and verbal crap!

Answer 4

He became physically abusive. I guess he was kind of abusive in an emotional way before we got married. I just ignore the obvious and thought love and time would change him. Guess what it just made things worst. No, there was nothing that I could have done to prevented it other than not marrying him.

Answer 5

The first time, she would not stop having affairs. The second time, I was a the cheater. Now I'm totally happy, so I am happy the way things turned out. As far as how they turned out, my first wife married a wealthy older man and has a summer home in Florida. My second wife remarried, divorced and remarried, divorced.

Answer 6

what made me get divorced well let me tell ya my ex wifes mother was so controlling my wife would listen to whatever she would tell her even if my wife new it wasnt true.her mother even went as far as hiring a girl to tell my wife that she had an affair with me for three years.it wouldnt of worked except the girl she hired had 4 of her friends to say that they had seen us together on several occasions. one of those friends worked at a motel and falsified records that we rented out a room the same room three seperate days. i think the only way it could have been prevented would have been if we would of moved the day after we married.

Answer 7

My first husband had an affair....I told him that I could forgive him and that we could work things out, but eventually we both decided that it was just best to end the marriage. He tried to do the "right thing," but he had fallen in love with her...after our divorce, he married her....then she cheated on him.....hee hee. I have since remarried to a wonderful man, and we have been married for 6 years.

Answer 8

I married young and for the wrong reasons. After 7 years and two kids. I stopped blaming myself for him not keeping a job and treating me terrible.

The advice I give my friends and family. Marriage can wait until you are mature enough to handle it. Be realistic, love the person you are married to, don't marry someone for the person you believe they will become. Seek counseling...

Answer 9

For me he was the love of my life but he constantly cheated and went to jail so finally I got fed up with this and made him get out.I don't think he will ever change and I'm glad I let it go because now my life is not occupied with a fake love so I can find my real love.

Answer 10

MY ex-husband was very verbally and sometimes physically abusive!He never would work and was a bad alcoholic.We never had anything till i got a job and got our first house and bought our first car and all i asked was him to watch our 2 kids while i worked 3rd shift and he couldn't even do that.He would stay gone till i had to be at work and would hide keys from me or make me cry so all my make up would be rubbed off and then give me the keys with me having only 10 minutes or sometimes 5 minutes to get to work.I finally had enough and i meet him at the door one night and said here is your clothes ,bye .and don't you ever come back.We were married 6 years and had 2 kids but i couldn't take all the abuse any longer.If he would of worked and stopped drinking and treated me like somebody besides trash and kept his hands to himself i guess we could of stayed married but i don't know any woman who would of put up with what i did and as long as i did.I think i done pretty good.And afterward i felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders i never was so happy in a long time. im glad it happened and i never looked back!

Answer 11

Physical abuse ended my first marriage. After the courtship, engagement and marriage he started drinking and then using me for a punching bag. I am worth way more than that and deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Dumped his butt and married my soul mate 8 years later.

Alls well that ends well!