I work with one girl (shes 33 i'm 24) and we used to be very nice and my firend, but just one day change to be moody and nasty at me. That happenend since the day I moved to her office. Once i tried to talk to her asking about waht happened and she just explode crying and told me then it was because i'm unrespectful. I think I wasnt unrespectful, Anyway I said sorry if I affected you in one way i didnt want it and I will try to be caerefull...but she doesnt change and takes a very inmature attitude making faces at my back, she puts stuff in my desk that doesnt belong to me... and things like that.
Please how can i deal with this person. I've been ignoring her, but soetimes i feel that she deserves a bad trick
I'm tired
I need an advice!!
Thanks
2006-08-22 09:00:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You moved into her territory and she's insecure.
This is a no-win situation.
And, it's not your problem, sweetie. It's hers.
Say hello and goodbye to her; nothing else.
When she puts stuff in your desk that doesn't belong to you, just put it all in a box and at the holidays wrap up the box and give it to her as a gift.
Oh yeah ~smile when you hand it to her...
2006-08-22 09:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, since it seems that you don't know how you became labelled as "disrespectful", ask her. Perhaps during lunch break. Leave a note on her desk saying how you want to settle this argument. Before the meeting, offer to buy her lunch. Second, during the meeting, talk to her and ask. Ask why she thought so. Third, try to change whatever it is. Also, saying "Good morning! What's up? How's things going?" when coming to work will ease her. Remember her birthday and get her stuff she likes. Things like that will make it easy for both of you.
2006-08-22 09:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by The_Thinker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time to have a conference with her and the manager. Tell the manager what you told us. Don't go in there saying anything negative about her but tell the manager it makes you feel uncomfortable...Say that you would like to apologize if you offened her. But you can't figure out what you did wrong. good luck.
Or you could leave some clippings of the postal worker shootings on your desk where she can see them.
2006-08-22 09:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to deal with co-workers like this is to outsmart them. Do your job at hand and find ways to make things better on your own . That will impress them and at the same time make things better.
Jealous co-workers will always treat you like a devil until they realize that you are just like them when it really comes down to it. Outsmarting the jerks are the way to go if that doesn't work.
Once the threat diminishes, things will be ok again.
Be on guard though. Be very careful with what you say and who you talk to at the beginning. They will be on guard too, until they realize that your not a threat at all.
2006-08-22 09:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her home life is in disarray and she's' one of those people that can't leave it at the door of work. All you can do is be a friend and tell her if she has a problem with you to come and talk it over and if she ever needs a friend to talk to or just listen you're here. Don't just assume that it's something you did- more than likely her issues have nothing to do with you at all. good luck!
2006-08-22 09:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would get another job, and do not think about playing a trick on this girl. Maybe she is more upset about something you may have said and she may find it hard to talk to you. Did you say something to another person about her which they passed on. Its sometimes best just to say nice things, you make more friends that way.
2006-08-22 09:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by yorkshiremoors 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's got some unresolved emotional problems. See if there's a counselor at your company who can help you resolve this with her. It's a real pain trying to get along with someone like that. Her behavior is immature and passive-aggressive. Resorting to retaliation can make things a LOT worse.
2006-08-22 09:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Danger, Will Robinson! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the owner
Or lock your desk until you find a better job
Keep a log of all this and and have it in writing.
Find a better paying job,"The best Revenge Is Living Well"
2006-08-22 09:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness. Just because she's nasty to you does not mean you have to be the same to her. It's really hard to be rude and nasty to someone (even if you don't like her or visa versa) when you are always nice to her.
If she continues to be mean, simply ignore her. You have a job to do and social interraction at work is not necessary.
2006-08-22 09:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she's hurt, you are too. think about anything else. love will find it's way. too much energy wasted on this is a vexation to the spirito. leave it be, say goodmoring, talk when it is appropiate. do not engage in hate or talk caca with others about her, as she may or may not be doing about you. you must carry on with respect, life is a parentheses, you've got to fill it in. be careful. remember love is all there is, bottom line...
2006-08-22 09:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋