please be serious. when i ask my b/f if he is looking at porn while im at work hes says no but i know he is, he just doesnt want to tell me. i dont understand why he needs to. he tells me im the best thing that has ever happened to him but sometimes i just know hes doing it. if u were me what would u do? what do u think i should do? this is very serious so please no funny things.
2006-08-22 08:52:17 · 23 answers · asked by horses19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, I'm a guy, so read no more if you wish. No person, spouse, friend, relative, whatever, is all things to all people. Please take that into consideration. What type of porn he looks at may be an issue though. Look at the history of visited websites on your computer. (Click on the icon on the top toolbar to the right of Favorites.) When the history is displayed you can click on the sites and display the page. Make your decisions based on that. History can also be removed, both individually, and the whole column. If it's not there he's definately trying to hide something.
Good luck.
2006-08-22 09:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me and I knew he was watching porn for sure. Than I would tell him, what the freak is wrong with him. I would tell him you think i'm the best thing that has ever happend to you and can't check my goods, but he can look at a strangers on tv that he can't get to. He is just disgusting and a dawg. You should just take off the porn channels and you should hang with him. And get some quality time together. Maybe the reason why he watches porn is because your at work and he wants some action so he watches porn to comfort him. So what you need to do is give real porn instead of fake porn on tv.
2006-08-22 16:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by zjraheem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that he is watching porn on your computer then you better do something about it because investigaters are cracking down on it. You could try to catch him in the act or when your bill comes out check it out. If you suspect him then you may even want to cancel your internet service until he can find somewhere else to go. I'm not a man and I can't tell you why men look at porn but women do it too and I don't know why either but if you have a man or woman you would think that would be enough but I guess not. I pray it works out for you.
2006-08-22 16:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I know is my ex husband had an addiction to Porn. It was really bad and it has never gone away. He would spend money on it, even with all thoughs free sites out there. Now it's not the problem of porn it's the fact that he wouldn't and won't admit to it. If he is lying to you about this, something that you don't care if he does all I have to say is what else is he not telling you. I would be a little concerned. This sounds a little to close to home for me. Mine was cheating.
2006-08-22 16:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently had the same problem, it was a huge problem in my relationship with my boyfriend, it drove me crazy for so long, and he lied about it all the time, then I asked him why he needed to look at porn and he explained that it was nothing to do with me, it's just sort of a guy thing so I learned to accept it, every guy does it no matter what their willing to admit, so now I just ask him to be honest about it and he agreed, im okay with it now, i've learned to accept it and understand it and I suggest you do the same, everyone will be happier, yes it will drive you crazy at first, but you'll likely get over it, hope this helps!
2006-08-22 16:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you are going through. My boyfriend is going through the same thing, but thankfully he has been open and honest about it. He has what is called a sex addiction. He actually referred me to a great website to help both me and him. It is called sex -aholics anonymous. It really helps. Most men feel like they cannot say anything because they are ashamed and addicted and because they DO love they person they are with. They have a hard time asking for help and try to cover it up. Believe it or not you are probably the best thing that has happened to him and he doesn't want to loose you. He is probably afraid you are going to leave him or think less of him. Whether this may be his problem or not research on the internet on "sex addicitions" so you can understand what different men go through when battling this. Let him know you believe in him as a person. Be a good influence to him, don't be negative or put him down or you are pushing him away. Let him know that he can talk to you. Let him know that you love him and are willing to battle this with him. This does affect you as well and he eventually needs to understand that his behavior affects you so much especially since you are his significant other, whether he admits it or not his actions affect you too. I would really try to do your research first, so you can gain an understanding of what he is going through/ possibly going through, and then sit down and talk to him lovingly and let him know how you feel. Don't attack him, but let him feel like he can open up to you. I wish you luck... if you ever need to chat feel free to write me/contact me! It's hard but he needs you and loves you more than you know!
2006-08-22 16:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that guys shouldn't be looking at porn if they are in a relationship, peorid! If you are the best thing that has ever happened to him then you should be the only porn that he needs. I suggest that you take pictures of yourself and you be the porn star for him. Leave the pictures where he will find them and try to find his porn and burn them up! If he still looks at porn, then he isn't the right one for you...he still is going through his teenage years. Best of luck.
2006-08-22 16:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright I can help you out i've been married for 4 years and my husband and I can't stand porno we believe it's nasty and sex is private you know some people have a saying men will be men or all men are the same NOT true trust your b/f give him the benefit of a doubt not all men are the same Donnie doesn't believe in porno he's never been that way NEVER blame a man for anything unless their is hard evidence have you actually seen him do it?? Do you have a hard evidence?? Give him the benefit of doubt and keep in mind he loves you and he has you he doesn't need to look at that stuff so clear your mind :)
2006-08-22 16:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy...Girlfriend....RELAX. It doesn't mean you're not the one. It doesn't mean ANYTHING. Ok too much pom...to much of anything is bad. But women....young women (not knowing how old you are) get so uptight about porn. He's not having sex with them. He doesn't want to have sex with them....he just likes to look. Please except "THAT'S OK" and don't destroy a (possible)great relationship over something like that. You feel like he's comparing? HE'S NOT. Most men love nude women. Are the women getting his money?....NO they're not...You know they're not. Are they calling the house?.....NO they're not. I mean, lets be honest.....what is it really hurting other than your ego. Don't let it, you're far better than anyone of those girls in the picture and this is coming from a stranger. If you except it and don't make it out to be more than what it is, he'll see you in that light all women want their man to see them in "My girlfriend...future wife..is the greatest". That's the truth.
2006-08-22 16:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by I am what I am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try seeing, what he likes about it. You nagging at him, wont open him up... rent or buy some porn and watch it with him....then casually start up the convo and maybe you might both like it, or maybe you'll understand why he does.
In either case...once you know the WHY, you'll know your answer.
2006-08-22 16:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋