well i feel real nervous now cuz me and my best friend are at 2 different colleges 3 hours apart...what should i do to not feel this way
2006-08-22 08:47:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Give it time. A new experience is always a little scary and losing your primary support system from school is hard, but college is all about learning about yourself, what YOU like and dislike, meeting new people and experiencing new situations (and of course academics should be a primary focus as well).
Most of all, study hard, but have some fun too.
2006-08-22 08:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by The Trooper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is a great place to meet new friends who have the same interests as you, not the people who you have been around for the last 13 years of your life. Its a great chance to discover who you REALLY are, not who everyone around you shaped you to be. Figure out what your interests are and join a few clubs (trust me everyone there likely feels the same anxiety you do). Make an effort to invite people out with you, to a group dinner or coffee or a party, anything...And if you get an invite, take the chance to go, even if you're nervous---if you don't like how things are going, you can always glance at your watch, proclaim your forgetfulness about that 8 am quiz tomorrow, and bolt home! Just take chances, and remember, no one is watching how nervous you are, they're all too self-consumed with their own anxiety! You'll do great!
2006-08-22 09:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Balou0017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few weeks at college can be scary, but never fear, lots of people are feeling the way you feel right now. It's completely normal to feel out of place, but college is somewhere that you will definitely find a place to fit in. If you live in a residence hall, try walking down and meeting some of your neighbors, maybe even inviting them to dinner with you. Also, once your classes start, you can join clubs and get to know more of your classmates. However, you are going to have to make an effort - friends don't just appear out of nowhere.
2006-08-22 08:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel nervous when you make a big change like this. By the end of the month you won't feel so nervous. You just need to give yourself some time to get to know some people. If you have a roommate start there...get to know your roommate. Get to know the people on your hall (if you live in a dorm). When your classes start talk with the people in there. See what clubs and organizations they are a part of or are interested in joining. If they mention a club or organization that you are interested in see if they mind if you join them at the first meeting/organizational meeting. They shouldn't have a problem with you going with them.
I usually asked people questions about themselves. For example, I would ask them about where they were from, if they had siblings or pets, what they were majoring in or thinking of majoring in, clubs and organizations, the dorm they were living in, and the classes they were taking. These are always good things to talk about while you wait on the class to start or while you are in the cafeteria.
2006-08-22 09:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by fieldworking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep something in mind - all freshmen are feeling that way right now! You are not alone. Take advantage of this opportunity to be that person you see inside yourself. Don't wait for tomorrow to get out there and meet people and create that next chapter in your life. The quicker that you do, the more rewarding it is. You and your best friend will both be just fine!
2006-08-22 08:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by ODrisk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The university setting is a great place to meet new and different people. Join some clubs, attend funtions and events on and around campus. Be friendly and accepting of the changes and and soon you'll have a brand new batch of friends you can share with you best friend.
2006-08-22 08:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll come to you. Just get to know some people in your dorm and it'll grow from there.
The first week or so at college can seem like a long time, especially if you don't have any friends there.
When I first started college in 1990, I had friends from my high school, so the transistion wasn't as tough. I did make new friends in my dorm though.
Good luck.
2006-08-22 08:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by KP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this: EVERYONE knows NO ONE. The people that meet people the fastest are the sl-uts because thats how they attract guys. be yourself and do what you like because you want to meet the right friends. Once you know that everyone is nervous, you'll get some comfort out of that. And yes, join clubs or activities.
2006-08-22 08:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax! Your friend is feeling the same way, as are all the new students at any college.
Some handle the stress of living out of their comfort zone in different ways.
The feeling will subside once you settle into your new life. You just have to give it some time. And don't stress out over it. Try to have fun.
2006-08-22 08:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off that is completely normal!!! Its a new setting and everything new takes adjusting. I went back to college after being out of school for many years and I felt that way the entire 1st semester. All you can do is give it time and you will adjust.
2006-08-26 07:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋