Questions for young teens that have sex?

Question

I know alot of teenagers have sex whether it be wrong or not they do it anyways, what I want to know is when the time comes your older and have kids of your own how are you going to handle your children between the ages of 11-15 wanting sex and not respecting your wishes? or your 12 year old child comming home saying momny Im pregnant?

Answer 1

That's an excellent question.

There are so many young girls out there that don't realize the consequences of their actions. They end up pregnant, or with a disease. STD's and AIDS can be worse than an unplanned baby. The boys don't think about it beyond, "Gee, I'm not the one that can get pregnant," if they even think at all.

We need parents to take responsibility and talk to their kids. We as parents, since I am one, need to make sure that we tell our kids how dangerous sex can be. (And drugs, drinking, smoking) They need to know what to expect if and when they decide to get active. Besides the physical dangers, the emotional and mental upheaval that is a little more than what most children can handle. Sex should be with someone you love, and when you are having sex you can become very attached to your partner. It makes all the break-ups that much worse for someone not emotionally and mentally old enough.

My husband and I have already started talking to our two (5 & 3) about the "good vs. bad" touching. I'm hoping that starting young will ingrain the knowledge in them so that when the time comes, they are ready for the responsibility. The idea is that if they are familiar with the knowledge, they will be less inclined to experiment with something new. They will know what sex can lead to, and just maybe, they will wait. Or at least use protection. It sounds dumb, but it worked for my parents.

If the time comes that we find out that one of our children is pregnant, I hope that I can be supportative (after I calm down from loosing my temper) and help them to make the right decisions. I also think that if I find out they are having sex too early, I can talk to them about the dangers, and re-stress condom usage. (This would also be after I lost it and then calmed down again.)

Mainly, I think that good parenting can help guide the children down the right track. If we stay involved with them, their lives, and their friends, we will better know what needs to be stressed, and what lessons they have picked up. I know that this puts parents into the "bad guy" role, but we didn't have them to have another friend. We had them to have a child to raise.

Answer 2

I am a parent and I have a daughter who is 4 years old. My husband and i were just talking about this the other day. I want to talk to my child about sex when she turns 10. He said that she will be too young. these days, kids are having sex at a very young age. I want my daughter to hear it from me first before other kids or boys.

Answer 3

Be a good example and if it's too late for that, then communicate with them and tell them over and over why it's bad for them and point out examples if you know of any. Possibly get someone who has been in that position who got pregnant, and now has ongoing problems stemming from that, to talk to your child and explain how he or she could have avoided it by not having sex in the first place.

Answer 4

well as a parent you try and try to get your children to not make the same mistakes as you did when you were their age...but life is a cruel and rough world...and you cant protect them from everything they will come into contact with. Just try and teach them to your best abilty and hope that they will follow the right road...and if they do shall slip up...then just support them. everyones not perfect...and all u can do is hope and pray. I use to not get along with my parents...and im 16. I came home and told them i was pregnant. Now we are closer than ever because they supported me even though i made bad choices.

Good question honey.!!!

Answer 5

I learned about sex from my friends, not my parents. Well, after having a child at 17, I did not want that to happen to my daughter. I started talking to her about sex when she was 9. Nothing to explicit at that age, but I opened the communication for her to come to me with questions when she was ready.

At 10, she came to me and told me she wanted to kiss a boy, but was scared. I told her if she was scared, then she wasn't ready yet. She took my advice. She has come to me with many questions since then. I've also told her that sex is not just physical, it's emotional, and you have to be ready for it.

The way to handle it is to prevent it. Keep the open communication so they are not afraid to come to you with questions.

Answer 6

Great question and a massive thought to the peoples who thinks have sex earlier. I'm 24 years male and I have a lot of friends but we all have never sex and thinks that it should be with someone whome I love and with trust to become life arterners, or after lifepartener (marriage).

Answer 7

This is a very good question. I was not allowed to date until I was 16, much less anything else so I was never promiscuous at that young age (or any age), but the kids who are, this is something for you to think about.

Answer 8

I am now in the mother position, and my preteen is about to come to that. I pray that what I have learned from my choices will help her make the right decisions. That is pretty much all I can do. I make sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times too! She knows she can tell me anything without judgement.

Answer 9

Good question, let us remember the whole purpose of sex is reproduction and history does tend to repeat itself.

Answer 10

I havent had sex and dont plan to do so until i am married but.... That is a good question