he is very secretive and offinsive when ask to shear with his messenger accounts.
2006-08-22 08:17:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes...if he has something to hide then he's up to no good...if he doesn't have anything to hide then he wouldn't be hiding
2006-08-22 08:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends. Have you had trust issues with him before? Does he have a history of hiding things from you? If you answered 'yes', then you probably do have something to worry about. Obviously, in all relationships there needs to be a level of trust but if he has broken that trust before then I don't blame you for feeling the way you feel. If he has many messenger accounts then you better believe that he has chat friends that he communicates with...the thing here is that you know about it...he's not keeping that away from you....In other words, he's not chatting to other people behind your back.... Would you like it if your husband snooped and inquired as to every e-mail you received or quizzed you about every person in your cell phone? I would give the man a little space IF he is a good husband and has always been honest with you...
2006-08-22 08:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by larceny'sghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u should not worry, there is nothing he could do...If he is really hiding something and ur meant to find out they would be right under ur nose.
I know that it's werid coz the relationship u want is to share things and be honest but he needs space, if it is a women Then look at it this way...At least ur the one being compeletly honest in and out of the relationship and it's his fault he couldn't handle a preety girl like u..
Thats how i think.
But for now it is not a problem...if u showed him ur messenger and did not tell him anything...
he would feel the same.
2006-08-22 09:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak out of experience. I'm still with my partner but it eventually led him into cheating. He would use yahoo im and surf other web sites when I lived with him. He and I would always fight over it. Then to my surprise, he actually met a woman and when I left to go with friends, he left home and didn't come back until the next morning. Before that, he lied saying, he was going to visit his sons and he actually set up a date with the girl going to the movies. I called the number in the caller id and the girl told me everything. I had enough then I moved out. So when he realized that the grass wasn't greener on the other side he came whimpering back. I took him back and now all of the accts were closed out that he chatted on there's nothing he hides from me now. The secretive stuff is out of his volcabulary. I can truly say, your story sounds so identical to mine because that's how it all started out. He would always get on the defensive about it when I asked. So yes, be worried. It always leads to something else.
2006-08-22 08:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by sunny d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say that if he has never given you a reason not to trust him then don't worry. But a woman's intuition is always right. Maybe you should try to figure out the passwords or just flat out ask him for them. Or if you are together at the computer, ask him pull it up and let you see them . If he has a problem with that then I would be worried. Good luck:)
2006-08-22 08:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know that I would worry. I have a few accounts myself. Just some fliting fun in the chats thats all. Maybe thats all he is doing but doesnt want you to know.
2006-08-22 08:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should not be private with you on this subject. He is most likely hiding something and you need to know. I wouldn't be too happy at all and let him know that this bothers you. The reason that he gets defensive to you is b/c he is hiding something and keeping that from you.
2006-08-22 08:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here we go again. You're asking the wrong question.
The right question is this; Do you trust your husband? If you trust your husband, leave him alone since you don't let him fish through your personal belongings, either.
If you don't trust your husband, get a divorce.
Don't thank me, thank Dr. Slesinger and Joy Brown...they said it first.
2006-08-22 08:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you KNEW that your husband with satisfied with the attention you are giving him, you wouldn't have to worry about what he did or didn't keep from you. Quit acting suspicious, and don't give him any reason to look elsewhere, and your worries will go away.
2006-08-22 08:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his privacy for now. If he's up to something, he will expose shortly. All you have to do is wait. He will make a mistake where you will be able to get access this his accounts. So just wait patiently.
2006-08-22 08:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry... I was involved with a man on messenger... He was married... he has many accounts and she didn't know about them until last month... come to find out he'd been sleeping with loads of women.... I would confront him about it...
2006-08-22 08:25:16 · answer #11 · answered by spazattacker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋