Three months isn't a very long time, I know you are hurting, but to forget the greatest one, it maybe be awhile. I went back and read some of your other questions, to see if I could figure out why she left. You admitted fault for not letting her past stay in the past. So, you got not only to get over your heartbreak, you have a guility conscience on top on that. That's what the problem is. You are having to deal with the fact that you are the one that screwed up. You do realize everyone makes mistakes, and if you at least learned not to repeat the same ones, then you have accomplished something. Have you ever sat down with your ex and apologized to her. If she won't speak to her, then write her a letter, you don't have to mail it, just write her a note saying that you need to apologize for hurting her. That you are sorry, and that you are truely sorry for hurting her so bad, and ruining your relationship with her. I think this will help you be able to move on, you have got to forgive yourself for your past mistakes, and move on. You can't expect to find such a great woman every day it may take you some time to find Mrs. Right, but you have got to clean up your past before moving on. I think this will help. I truely do, and the greatest could be just around the corner. But you maybe putting out the wrong impression, and you can't measure any new girls with this perfect woman. Completely different people If this other had been perfect, then you and her would still be together. You could have worked out the problems, and you wouldn't have cared what her past was. You would have moved forward instead of bringing it up all the time. You would have just let it go, and know how glad that she was with you in the here and now. Have you ever stopped to think about that? Why you couldn't seemed to stop yourself from holding the past against her. Maybe it was that she wasn't Ms. Perfect after all. Seems to be you weren't all that happy, or you wouldn't have done it. So, please do some thinking about writing her a letter, or speaking with her, because some man is going to accept her for who she is now, and never ever bring up the past. Thats' what she deserves, and you deserve a woman that you love enough not to care about it. So, think long hard at that possibility. Have some closure on the old relationship and start by getting out some and meeting new people. You have to forgive yourself. You can't keep this bottled up inside, or you going to ruin yourself, so what you made some stupid mistakes, but you shouldn't punish yourself anymore. Please think about what all I said, and honey, it's time to lay it to rest, so you can get over her.
God bless us all......................
2006-08-22 09:47:26
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answered by totallylost 5
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If she was the greatest, why is she your ex? Perhaps you weren't so great? Listen, if she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, let her be and learn from the experience. If you still talk, then start wooing her. Tell her how much you miss her and start rectifying whatever went wrong in the relationship. But remember, she may have moved on. It takes two to make a relationship work out, therefore, if she's moved on, you need to move on also. It just means it wasn't meant to be, and you have to let go. You never know, you may end up meeting someone far more greater than her. Good luck. I feel your pain.
2006-08-22 08:13:55
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answered by BluePassion 4
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It's going to take a lot longer than that. The things that you had over the years with her will always seem to crop up in your mind when you least expect. The thing to do is find something to keep you busy, and that makes you happy. This can help a lot until time kicks in to help you go on with your life without her. This is experience talking from being out of a 31 yr marriage for a little over a year now.
2006-08-22 08:15:07
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answered by msthinkpositive 5
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It takes time, I'm sorry for what you're going through. Just be patient with yourself and realize you have to go through a mourning process. However, don't shut yourself off from the world either, make plans with friends, go out and be involved in life. I've also found the best way to get over being sad and depressed is to help those who are less fortunate than I, serving others is a great way to help yourself feel so much better. It tends to put everything in perspective. Good luck!
2006-08-22 08:12:22
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answered by basketcase88 7
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the following is a question to ask your self - now that she is gone, would you concentration on your self Catholic? have you ever gone to church, taken communion, or gone to confession because you broke up? Are you extremely a believer, or do you in ordinary words desire someone who would not desire decrease than to extremely percentage their faith and characteristic a religious connection? I sympathize with you, even with the undeniable fact that. i have not ever extremely heard of this for being a reason behind breaking up, and if it were given to the point that you've been 15 months into this courting, why would now be the most suitable straw? Its compared to she did not understand that going into it. i extremely imagine both a) this became her lame excuse or b) she may not have commonly used what she needed once you met, yet knows now that sharing faith is an major portion of what she needs in a courting do not replace your self for every person yet you. and per chance you'll locate someone that stocks your own faith and locate something this is not purely emotionally yet spiritually relaxing as well.
2016-12-01 00:21:14
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answered by lovelady 3
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You will get over your ex. It's hard, but the best thing to do is just move on. I recently lost a guy for the second time, and this time around it hurt, but not as long as the first time. It does get easier. You have to believe in yourself and keep going out and meeting new people. And always tell yourself this, "It's their loss, not mine." That little phrase has helped me out more than anyone can imagine.
2006-08-22 08:15:59
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answered by lrigoidar 1
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since you have been thrust into the single life without a choice maybe it's time to PARTY!! Go have a good time and start gettin to know your friends agian and meet some knew people. Look at it as an opportunity not a prison sentence, good luck
2006-08-22 08:15:25
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answered by salute222000 4
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It takes time. For me I had liked this guy-and we didn't even go out. We were just friends. We might have liked each other at some point but we move on. Everyone does. It is hard for awhile. I think that if you go out and meet other people-it will help. You will find someone better.
2006-08-22 08:18:33
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answered by Anonymous
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She'll always have some good qualities about her that you'll always love/admire... you're free from being married to her, but being free from the tangled mess of emotions takes awhile... it took me 2 years to get over the emotional attachment of a 21 year marriage, even though I was glad to be free from him.
2006-08-22 08:17:03
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answered by ? 4
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prob not for as very long time.. It is true when they say time makes it better but it still takes awhile.. I am divorced, and I was the one that wanted out, it has been over a yr, but he still says he loves me and wants me back... he asks for sex all the time even though he has a gf now and lives with her. go do things with friends and family. You will fin someone again that will take your breath away..i promise..good luck to you.
2006-08-22 08:16:48
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answered by motorcyclelovinmama 3
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