Is being passive an overal bad or good thing?

Question

Is it like good to keep the peace and like not blast out about something and be agressive about it?

Answer 1

You must actively keep the peace. Being passive is similar to being a non-participant. Peace is great, but it takes effort!

Consider a mother with 2 fighting children. She could sit back and let them fight it out and that would be passive. If she intervened and brought the kids to a state of calm and helped them come to a resolution that works for both, then that is actively keeping the peace.

You are correct about not blasting someone or being aggressive. That leads to hostility. Remaining calm will work to everyone's benefit. Keep it up!

You'll bring goodness to the world.

Answer 2

It depends. If you are engaged in the events around you and hanging out with people you like and enjoying their company and so on, maybe being passive is a enjoyable for you, and that is all good. Someone in the group has to be a really good listener or most groups become dull with everyone yelling at each other other and breakdown in certain ways. Even couples often have a verbal one and a listener. That is health as long as the listener get his/her say and the talker listens.
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If you are having these kinds of systems, then get some help. You can overcome a great deal of the problem, and it is worth it when you do. Symptoms include, discomfort or worse around more than one person at a time. Fear of large crowds of people. Fear of dancing or doing anything obvious in front of people. And other symptoms.
Medication that has helped me is Welbutren and Paxel. Try Welbutren first because it is effective and has only very subtle side effects if any. However, go to a psychiatrist and follow his/her instructions. Side effects can ofter not be felt by the person taking the medications so talk to your doctor.

Answer 3

being passive is good to a certain point. if people are walking all over you it's time to get more aggressive. Also, even if you are the most passive person in the world, it is human nature to have anger and can only be bottled up for so long until the anger blasts its way out

Answer 4

I've been told I am too passive. But the truth is I choose my battles. Being aggressive is not always the way to go, it can turn bad on you. My boyfriend thinks I am weak because I don't' go off on people who he thinks are treating me wrong, usually the people I work with. Well I can not cus my co-workers out all the time because they don't agree with me or may not carry their own weight.

You have to be careful of when, where & with whom you agressive with. I think sometimes passive aggressiveness is more powerful...Think Jesus or Martin Luther King.

But then there are times when you have to stand up for somethings or you will fall for everything...Choose wisely young grass hopper...

Answer 5

its a catch 22. in my life, I have been a passive and laid back individual but some see this as a weakness, and try to take advantage of you or see it as apathetic/inconsiderate. Consider these roadsigns on your road through life and come up with your own personal strategies in order to overcome them:

If your on the romance scene.... At first, they may find you mysterious and elusive. later women will find you aloof and apathetic if your not careful.

In both society as with romance, if your passive, they see this as submissive, which people may (and possibly will) disrespect you due to it. If you're too willing to do whatever everyone else wants, they may get frustrated with you, to assume that your unwilling to take responsibility or even care enough to suggest something.

Theres a time and a place for passivity, and at the same time theres a point where you have to take a step up and suggest your interests.

Answer 6

Being passive to keep the peace is a good thing...unless you are sucking it in and later blow over something like a pencil lead break(that's not good). And it's not good if you are getting run over. But if you're getting your point across in a decent, Human, manner, then I'd say be who you are.

Answer 7

passive can be a good thing in small doses. you should not be so passive that others can push you around and walk all over you though. there is a time to walk away from conflict and a time to stand up for yourself and be heard.
finding the right balance is the hard part.

Answer 8

I'm very passive, and I think it's a bad thing. People who realize this tend to walk all over me, and a lot of times when I want to speak up about something, I won't. I don't want to be highly aggressive either bacause a lot of those people are flat out rude idiots.

Answer 9

It's a bad thing. You have to pick your battles. Certain things aren't worth fighting about, but some things are. When dealing with women, passive guys are considered pansies, wimps, gurly-men, take your pick (and they'll use and abuse you, not to mention the fact that they will have zero respect for you). Be yourself, don't apologize for who and what you are, and if someone challenges your core attitudes or beliefs, DO NOT EVER back down.

Answer 10

Something in the middle would be better. Too passive and you'll get run over, too aggressive and you'll miss out because you're too busy shoving your opinions on others to hear theirs.