I am getting married and my fiancee's sisters are horrible. He is the baby and has 3 older sisters. They make rude comments to me all of the time and blame me for everything. When I was deciding to have as bridemaids I made sure it was ok with my fiancee if I only had one of his sisters and he didn't care and I even talked with his mom about it also. His sisters are 6,8, and 10 years older than me so it was also kind of strange to have them in it, plus I don't get along with them. But, as soon as they found out they weren't in the wedding one of them threw a fit and started crying and went to her mom. Her mom called me and pretty much forced me to have them all in the wedding. They are all rude to me and now that they are in the wedding I still am upset and I just don't know what to do. Please help me....I also want to know how to deal with them in the future.
2006-08-22 07:34:32 · 10 answers · asked by star129 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In-laws are a pain in the ***. Its your wedding first of all you can do what you want and your soon-to-be husband should tell his mommy to back off a bit and let the two of you decide who's going to do what. I have a brother-in-law and sister-in-law with no parents. The greatest thing in the world because if I wanted to I would tell them both where to go and hubby wouldn't care because I'm HIS wife! Its nice to be put in front of someone's family for a change. I also had one maid of honor and thats all you need. You don't even need bridesmaids. I didn't cause I only have one sister and too many friends to choose from! People on your side of the family should only stand for you and you only. The people on his side are standing for him and him only. They join and all support you no matter what! Good luck sweetie I hope it turns out well I really do!
2006-08-22 07:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to his mom's opinion is not a bad idea,but the wedding is yours,you make the decision,you choose who and who,he should be 100% back you up.
Seems like making a film and you are the main character,if you are not in the character because of your upset,I don't think
this movie will be successful.Another main character is your fiancee,she should be co- operate together to make this movie to the best.You both are also the producer and director,to make a prefect movie or a bad movie is in your own hands.
Good Luck .Best wishes to you and your wedding.
2006-08-22 15:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by canada2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a time for your fiancee to step up and be a true man/husband and have a conversation with his sisters on your behalf. You need to tell him what is going on, how it upsets you , and demand that he expects respect for his wife to be. It shouldn't have to be your battle alone.
Hun, it is YOUR wedding, you do not have to be bullied into anything you don't want. Become a bridezilla if necessary - it's YOUR day. It is perfectly okay for you to tell them you aren't having ANY of the sisters in the wedding if they are going to ruin it by treating you badly.
Bottom line though, it is your fiancee's side of the family, it is his responsibility to deal with it. If he won't step up on your behlf, consider postponing the wedding - as he may not be the right man for you.
2006-08-22 14:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you are in a tough position. but guess what it is your day not thiers. if you don't get along with them there is no reason you have to have them as bridesmaids. i wasn't in my brother's wedding, i was a personal attendant. my sister-in-law had 7 bridesmaids and of that only one was a friend all were her sisters! my sister is currently planning her wedding i'm the maid of honor and the grooms sister is to be the other bridesmaid, however she refuses to go look at dresses or tell my sister her sizes, so she got the boot. my sister went thru the same thing of her pouting at first because my sister didn't want her in then she made it difficult. you don't deserve to be stressed out more than you already are. it is your wedding it can be your way. don't be afraid to say no. the people that stand by your side at that alter should be people who support you and the groom and love you both. if you don't get along, can you imagine the crap they could pull on the big day? do you want that? you need to take a stand, with your groom. it is most important for him to stick up for you as he will be your hubby. i know he probably doesn't want to take sides, but he kind of has to here....they either suck it up and be thankful one of them is in or nothing. you tried to compromise and they aren't playing well. so step out of the sand box your in, dust yourself off and tell them where to go if needed. you may have to live with them the rest of your life, but do you need to be miserable the whole time? good luck and congrats!
2006-08-22 14:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding; you do whatever you want. The Bride and the Mother of the Bride should have the final say on the wedding plans. If you don't want them in your wedding, they'll just have to deal with it. Sounds like they'll be a pain in the butt no matter what so why try to please them? Seems like the Groom has a clue what's going on so that shouldn't be a problem.
2006-08-22 14:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by VTGunz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you started something when you changed your whole wedding to accommodate your SIL's feelings. These women are adults and need to act as such. Stand your ground in future episodes. Your hubby's family seems so immature that you shouldn't spend alot of time around them.
Good luck!
2006-08-22 14:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no girl, this is your wedding and not theirs. Girl no no no.You need to get all this out in the open and resolved with your dudes help. Next thing you know they'll be trying to run your wedding, household, and how you please their brother. sweetie bring out your inner ***** and take some control. if mom don't like. then tell her to get her daughter's in the right so you do fell good about having them in the wedding. my heart goes out to you . but if you don't stand up about this your marriage is not going to last. your husband to be needs to get off his @** and support in this baby girl. Your man needs to put his sister in their place. kick them out of the wedding, make them watch. Only people who truly love care and respect you should stand with u. His mother is wrong. dead wrong. i don't care if that is their brother. it is your day.
2006-08-22 14:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is you and your fiancee's wedding, not his sisters. Would they consider having you as a bridesmaid in their wedding???
2006-08-22 14:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun... the prob seems to be with your guy. he needs to tell them to back-off. if he can't stand up to them the marriage will be just like it is right now.
2006-08-22 14:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by lovingmommys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry into this family?
2006-08-22 14:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋